2012/12/21

Polygami is the best way to make the marriage blossom again.

I am a very jealous woman. I can't stand the fact that my husband would have another woman. And he has no one. But still, I can't forget about the fact that men are designed to have one or more women in their life, as in marriage. I found this article interesting. It is written by Psychology Today and it says something about men that most of us already know, but don't want to admit: That polygami is the best way for marriage and couples to survive and blossom. Please read more

2012/12/19

Visualizing list of 45 objects - (July 17, 2010)

Two and a half years ago I did a visualization list. I forgot about it, but inside me there has been a lot of changes and also around me. When I looked at the list I was stunned. The first part of it was already realized and manifested in real life. Now i just can't wait for the rest to happen. Want to share the glad joy with me? Read the list and you will know what I mean.
  1. The finger - shahada.
  2. Five prayers - every day.
  3. Fasting more than Ramadan.
  4. Hajj or Pilgrimage. 
  5. Saddaqa - money I give to poor, orphants, hospitals, poor and also those that seem rich, but are in fact poor. 
  6. Reading the Qur'an fluent.
  7. To maintain my homes in Sweden and Tunisia
  8. I cook wonderful food - tunisian, arabian, swedish, italian, spanish food
  9. I have a big  and nice closet of clothes and so does my family
  10. Everybody has got servant and help at home
  11. From morning to evening there is a golden flow of energy sparking around us - activated and shining.
  12. Holidays in Sweden and abroad
  13. Cool dreams about Paradise
  14. The kids are beautiful, smart, healthy and intelligent
  15. I am healthy, vital, smart and intelligent
  16. My husband and i behave perfect both for our self and also at home and outdoors. Love is all around.
  17. Everybody wants to help us and love to give os what we want and what we need.
  18. I have a good, paid work and my Spouse has good working hours and an excellent salary. 
  19. We have saved to live where we want to live, in Sweden and in Tunisia
  20. We travel a lot, by ourselves and with the kids'
  21. Our love is fiery and passionate. 
  22. We develop our hobby - photography, have exhibition and write books.
  23. We have got a Volvo C60 (even though I prefer a jaguar in december 2012) and the children is gonna have one each at their 16th birthday. 
  24. My children have many Muslim friends. They visit the mosque frequently, act exemplary and amuse themselves. They remember to be grateful and they give a lot back. 
  25. Be thankful of my family's beauty and the love of the whole big family around us. 
  26. I have got time to do what I want to do, and that which is good and everybody that wants to join can do so. 
  27. I do a lot of things, and I do it well and the people around me too.
  28. I am engaged in life
  29. I ignore the result for a while, and then I admire it. 
  30. We own a little cottage in the mountain near the ocean. 
  31. I ask the question: Why am I successful, happy, fit and healthy?
  32. I ask the question. Why am I safe and have plenty of time?
  33. Why do I have positive energy, fiery and also thankful?
  34. Why am I happy and how can I create more of happiness for myself and other?
  35. Why does this lovely things happen to me?
  36. In which way are these wonderful moments precious?
  37. Why do I pray a lot? I read the Qur'an and visit Mecka?
  38. How can I show gratitude and also appreciate my self and my family and God even more?
  39. How can I love myself, my family and God even more?
  40. How can I affect life in a positive way for those I love and those that love God?
  41. What should I do to beam even more?
  42. What can I do to get to Paradise and to be excused from Hell?
  43. How can I serve God? How can I contribute? What do I have that I can give? If I know that, I will be part of the flow of positive energy that is around everybody.
  44. How can I give from my heart and receive? The more you have the more you can receive. 
  45. I see it, when I believe it.  
We are right now (December 19, 2012) on number 1-21 (with exception of number 4 and 6). What are your visualization list?

17 things you didn't know about a Muslim

  1. We do not celebrate New Year's Eve, Easter, Halloween, birthdays. We only have two festivals that ends up to three days each. 
  2. We use the veil to show to others that we are Muslims. 
  3. We don't eat porc, dog or ordinary meat, except that which are halal. We don't eat anything that is not halal. The halal way is the same as the kocher way, which the jews do. 
  4. We don't pray to the black stone in Mecka. We pray to God. We are all united and this is shown in the way we stand together towards one qibla, or direction. We don't pray to the moon, nor a moongod. The Prophet Muhammad didn't give us the moon as a symbol, but it became later on as a reminder that we follow the mooncalender instead of the suncalender. 
  5. As I have children, I want them to live a good life. That is why I want them to be Muslims, happy and caring children. My daughter loves princesses and she adores the veil. She has a pink one. 
  6. My mother and father and sisters and brother enjoy talking about islam. They accept everything and tries to understand islam. They accept for example the prayer, my spouse and the veil. 
  7. Islam is not only a realistic religion, but also an ideologic religion, even though the realistic part of it is bigger than the ideologic one. 
  8. I choose my veil - before I got married. 
  9. You cannot live as common-law spouse, nor have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Only the marriage is acceptable as arrangement between a couple. 
  10. Polygami is a solution to a man's health and a woman's happiness and also a solution to the society if one takes a moment to reflect upon it. . 
  11. It is forbidden to kill innocent civil people, women and children. It is also forbidden to hurt animals and destroy the nature around us. 
  12. If you cannot live in the marriage, you are allowed to divorce. But is shouldn't be taken easily, everybody should work on her or his character and attitude first, then counselling and then divorce. 
  13. Of course you can take off the veil everywhere, except where it is people i.e. boys in the puberty and over that age (except for your own family) that can see you. So you can take it off at home, when you sleep, in the shower, with your girl-friends, with your family. The veil is a reminder that you are not like everybody else. Y O U are a M U S L I M and you should be very proud of that. 
  14. The fasting is a blessing. When you fast you shuts the inflow of sugar that nurture the cancercells, and thus kill the cancer. Most of us have cancer within us, even babies are born with cancer today. 
  15. We don't believe in Fatimas hand or that it will protect us. If we do that, we are not Muslims. We believe that it is God that protects us and that we have guardian angels. 
  16. We do believe in Magic and that it is forbidden to use it. 
  17. We also believe in invisible creatures, that life continues after death and that God, Allah, exists.

2012/12/14

How a man and a woman can have what they both want and more.

When most of us think of obedience we think that we are like children or slaves. You have to respect the eldery or the men or the men in charge. But what if respect is another thing? What if respect is admiration and it discharged into love and the fact that you like to listen to his words, because you find him really attractive, or he has a really good character or he has status, like a rockstar, or he is rich. Whatever quality he has, if must be something that you admire. Because if you admire it, you will listen to him. And if you listen to him, you will think that he has many good ideas. This makes you filled with love and joy and you start to change yourself, you will be more attentive to his thoughts and words and you will love what he has to say. You will start to obey him, with love. That is why a woman must admire her husband, somehow. It doesn't matter what, only that he has got something she really likes in him, that she respects.

The man must, to deserve a womans respect, have a job, just something so that she will feel that if she quits her job, she can feel safe. He has to keep in touch with her every day and also not cheating on her. If he can do these things, and he has one of the qualities mentioned above, then the marriage could be a successful one.

But a woman that is a muslim also loves Allah. And if she loves him, she also wants to do what he wants her to do. And a man, if he loves Allah, he will also want to do whatever Allah has charged him with.

If a human being respects Allah, he will adore him and then it will be easy to follow his words, because with love, anything can change.

I will also give you an external link to one of the best websites I have met, so far. Please read it. You will be astonished and inchallah happy as it will develop the understanding of islam in a new and marvellous way. You won't regret it.

hadithandwomen.wordpress.com


2012/12/12

If a woman needs the attention of other men, then she must work with her relationship at home - her husband must notice her and observe her better.

1: Woman’s Pray at Home is better than Going to Mosque and it makes her happy

Narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: Allah’s Apostle said: “Do not prevent women (wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, etc) from (praying at) mosques. Yet, their prayer at home is better (for them).”

2 : Woman’s Freedom to Go out for their Needs i.e. a woman is free to go out as she wishes, and it makes her happy.

Narrated by ‘Aisha: Allah’s Apostle said: “You (women) have been allowed to go out for your needs.”

3 : Evils behind Unnecessary Socialising of Unveiled Women, i.e. a woman that is veiled and is around other women that are veiled makes her much happier than spending time with unveiled women.

Narrated by Ibn Mas’ud: Allah’s Apostle said: “(Unveiled) woman is a cause of corruption. Once she goes out Satan beautifies her in the eyes of men (to seduce her as well as them). At her home, she is the closest (to the face) of her Lord.”

4 : Woman should take the Permission of Her Husband before Going out. When a woman asks the permission of her husband and letting him know where she is, this give her the attention she needs to feel happy. She wants her husband to think of her all the time while she is gone.

Narrated by Ibn Umar: One of the wives of Umar (bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the ‘Isha’ prayer in congregation in the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer as she knew that Umar disliked it, and he has great “ghaira” (self-respect). She replied, “What prevents him from stopping me from this act?” The other replied, “The statement of Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h): ‘Do not stop Allah’s women-slave from going to Allah’s Mosques. “

5: Prohibition on Women Regarding Putting Perfumes when Going out. When a woman wants to smell good it is enough taking a bath or a shower. The freshness of her own odour is much greater than any perfume. In putting perfumes she will have attention from women and men, and this will make her happy. But if she does it in public, she will also have the attention of other men that will start thinking about her instead of their own spouses. Does she want that?

Narrated by Abu Mousa Al Ash’ari: Allah’s Apostle said: “If a woman uses perfume and passes the people so that they may get its odour, she is so-and-so, meaning severe remarks. (i.e. about to commit adultery).”

6 : Prohibition on Women regarding showing her Charms when Going out. In showing your charms to men and women you will feel happy, but do it to your own husband. Make him observe you and do comments on your outfits, body and charm. Flirt with your spouse. If you are flirting with other you might gain a little, but the evil that is therein is much greater. YOU will feel better, but the spouse of the man that you are flirting with will NOT.

Narrated by Fudhalah ibn ‘Ubaid: Allah’s Apostle said: “Three persons are doomed …. Among them a woman whose husband is not present and provides for her; yet she shows her charms to (foreign) men.”

7 : Women should not travel without Mahram. To have the attention of your husband while traveling is one of the best keys to a good marriage. Why would you like to travel alone? The attention you need from your husband to make you happy is enough. If you don't feel happy, maybe your husband is not noticing you as he should. Talk to him immediatly.

Narrated by Ibn ‘Abbas: Allah’s Apostle said: “A woman should not travel except with a Dhu-Mahram (her husband or a man with whom that woman cannot marry at all according to the Islamic Jurisprudence).” A man got up and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! I intend to go to such and such an army and my wife wants to perform Hajj.” The Prophet said (to him), “Go along with her (to Hajj).”

8 : Women should have their own Entrance to the Mosque. Every woman is special, so why not give her a special gift - her own entrance to the mosque. This way she will feel important and thought of and she will also have her concentration on the prayers instead of the men and vice versa.

Narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: Allah’s Apostle said: “Should we leave this entrance (at the Mosque, i.e. Al Masjid AL Nabawi ) only for women to enter.” The sub-narrator, Ibn Nafie’ said: “Ibn ‘Umar did not use this entrance (after that) until his death.”

9 : Women should not walk in the middle of the street. Even though walking in the middle of the street makes a woman happy, it is not a good idea. If she wants to have the attention of other men, then it must be something lacking in her relationship - her husband doesn't notice her.

Narrated by Abi Ausaid Al Ansari: While Allah’s Apostle was going out of the mosque he saw all men and women in the road. He told the women: “You should wait behind. You should not walk in the middle of the road.” The narrator said: “women afterwards used to walk so close to the wall so that their dresses often stick to it.”

10 : Women should perform Tawaf without mingling with men. Even though it might seem difficult to not mixing with men today, you should stay as close to your husband or with other women as you can. This will help the men keep their focus on their mission, instead of your beauty. I know that you will feel sad if the men doesn't notice you, but work on your marriage instead.

Narrated by Ibn Jarieh said ‘Ata had told him when Ibn Hashim prevented women from performing Tawaf with men: how could he prevent them while the wives of the Prophet performed Tawaf with men?” I (i.e. Ibn Jarieh) said: before or after (the verse of) hijab (was revealed)? He said: “Upon my life, after hijab.” “How could they intermix with men?” I asked. “They didn’t,” he replied. “’Aisha used to perform Tawaf at a dividing space from men; she didn’t intermingle with them.”

Sins in islam - good or bad?

Oppression and usury
To oppress other people can make some people happy, as they feel stronger. But the evil of it is greater than the good feelings the person that oppress others are much greater than the good that is therein.

Usury makes people happy too. It will increase peoples wealth, but the evil of the action is greater than the good.

Cheating, theft, telling lies, backbiting, false witness, cursing:
When you feel sexual desires, or in love you think that it is good to cheat with him or her, but the evil is greater than the good. 

When you steal things you feel that you are worth it, but the evil of it is much greater than the good.

When you are telling a lie, to protect yourself, your reputation or gain benefits, you feel good, but the evil is much greater than the good. 

When you are releaving your heart about things you have seen or heard, it makes you feel important or better, but the evil in doing it is greater than the benefit. 

Sometimes you feel good when you protect somebody with not telling the truth, you don't want to witness, but the evil thing in it is greater than the good. 

You neglect cursing others as you do with the flies, you think it is something childish, or out of anger you feel good to cursing others, but the evil in it is greater than the good. 

bribery, homicide, gambling, teaching and spreading harmful ideologies, witchcraft
When you want something badly, or have benefits, or be accepted above others, you might feel that it is a good thing to bribe, but the evil is much worse than the benefits.

Sometimes when you are sad or angry you feel like hitting or even kill a person, but you must know by now that killing or homicide is evil. Even though YOU might feel good for a moment, when releaving all bad feelings, the evil is much more than the good. 

The feeling, or addiction of gambling rises your hormones. You feel excited and good. But the good therein is way much  less than the evil. 

Sometimes, when you meet knew people or a new idea or ideology, you might want to implement those ideas stright off. But the evil might be greater than the benefits, so be careful. 

You are reading the tarotcards, or you are listening to someone who has magic abilities or psychic gifts. You might feel overwhelmed over what she or he says about you, and think that it is good to know yourself and your destiny. But that is only falsehood, right off. The evil in it is much greater than the benefit.

Singing, dancing and dressing up makes a woman happy

I am so tired of hearing that everything that is forbidden can't make you happy. Muslims say that a LOT. That is not true. Singing, dancing and dressing uo Do make us happy, BUT, yes, there is a but, you will not feel happy if you are Not a Muslim and dancing, you will rather cry. perhaps not when you are singing, but afterwards. you will feel empty. but singing with your kids fill your heart with love. dancing around makes us feel happier and more energetic and dressing up will increase our oxytocin, but we only do that for our family, i.e. our husbands, not everyone. but when you sing for everyone, dancing in front of people and dressing up you will feel good too, but the thing is that the same rule as alcohol is implied on everything in life. When the evil is greater than the good, then it is prohibited, forbidden.

How? When a woman attracts orgel peoples attention she will feel good, at the moment. But then, when she knows that she attracts other men's attention and pull it away from his wife's, then it gets evil. Imagine that your husband think of another woman? how does that make you feel? and worse, what if your husband is attracted to another woman right now because she is more sexier than you are? That is why a woman and also a man should wear modest clothes, not sing to each other or dance in front of everyone. If will confuse the feelings of the person watching.

then, think also about how you spend your time. what could you have done instead of confusing people's hearts?

You feel like singing, because singing makes you laugh, and dance and it makes you happy, and if you do it in front of an audience you will be more happy. BUT, yes, there is a but, the thing is that when you spend your day, your life and your time with learning the songs, you forget about everything else. Why is that bad? Because you will forget about where you come from and where you are heading. It will make it difficult to keep your mind in focus for where you are going to go and the afterlife. Sing for your family and your children, and stay away from official performances.

If you like to dance, then dance. Dance makes you feel good and happy. That is not the question. But, yes there is a but, when you dance in front of others, you will start having eyes on you, people that will admire you, perhaps even an evil eye or two. You will also, in that moment have men's or women's attention and they will start thinking of you. Dance, but in your own house or with your friends. Stay away from mixed places.

When you dress yourself up, it is to give you attention. This is not a bad thing. It is good to have the attention of other women and men. But, yes there is a but, when you do this in front of others then can start feel bad, ugly, not good enough. Their husbands will start thinking of you instead of their own spouses. You feel good, but the result is that you will be a cause of disturbing other peoples minds and hearts. Dress up in front of your husband instead and make him say that you are lovely. Teach him to observe you - tell him that is makes you happy - and that he always must remark things that you change in your look. This will make both you and your spouse happy. When you are happy - then your spouse is too.

These are just three things. There are plenty of more things to make you happy.

Until then, salam aleikum.

2012/12/09

Why doesn't anybody come to help you and is it bad to be lonely?

I don't know why nobody came to visit you. They should have done that. 

Many people today are not aware of the things they do to other people. One thing that I think of is that you must change things in your life. You should start with yourself. 

The first thing to do is to start taking Lithium Orotate. Lithium is a mineral that is in food, especially milk, eggs and tomatoes. If you don't eat these things everyday, it is a good chance that you are depressed and lonely. That you are lonely is not a probleme really, because you are a guy, (women must have friends - without them they will be unhappy) but you should have a job to go to, a plan for your life. Without a plan you will be lost in life. 

I know that you cannot feel this right now, as there is a lack of vitamins and enzymes in your brain. Every girl and guy who feels this are lacking good nutritial food. 

Then you should start moving yourself. It doesn't need to be much - only sitting where you are right now and shaking your hands or arms. This will make your hands tingle. This is hormones that are spreading through your body - happinesshormones. The more you move, the more happinesshormones your will get. 

You also should marry soon. Marriage is essential, but not before you have a job and a home. 

Try to give somebody your attention - your mother for example. Listen to what she says - without commenting on it. This will lower her stress. You don't have to do anything and musn't answer, only listen. She will start giving you the attention you need. Your father will respect you when you have a job and when you are married. MAke them proud. I respect your ability to write - use it to help others. Kindly regards.

Respect is one key to true love

Many people want me to find somebody for them. This cannot be done by me. Never. Why?

If you want to marry somebody, and find love, Internet is not the place to look for women or search love.

Firstly, you cannot get somebody's attention or respect this way. There are so many things you must do and have before you can interact with someone.

Secondly, this way, internet, is not the place to find women that will respect you. You have to have a woman's respect and that she admires you before she will do anything for you, like respond to your question. This way, with internet as a mean, she doesn't respect you - she cannot, because she doesn't know you - how could she?

Respect is one a the keys to good relationships and true love.

Do you feel tired, depressed and want to vanish or even kill yourself? Try this.


I have felt tired, depressed and wanted to vanish from stress. This is some advice for men and women, but you have to know that women react to stress differently. Women has to talk to releave stress. Men don't.

I know that many people today are feeling the same thing - they are tired, exhausted, and feel stressed out.

One thing that can help you very soon is to take lithium orotate. Lithium is a mineral that is important for happiness. Most things today that you do and eat stress your body and in the brain of many people there is inflammation. You find lithium in foods, especially in mineral water and you can also find it in milk, egg and potatoes and many more. Se link below.

You also have to move a little, the more you move your arms and body, the easier it is for glucose, vitamines and minerals to go into your brain. You must, as a man, also diminish your stress, i.e. watch television for a while or something else that you like to do. Women need to talk a lot to diminish the stress and the inflammation in the brain and the body. If she doesn't talk, she will be very sick. She also have to help other people, with advice, money, cleaning, listening or other things that she can help others with etc. That will help her get happiness as her oxytocin-hormones go up.

If a man don't have a job, you have to have one. This will give you the respect you need to feel happy. After that it is good for you to be married, because it will help you in other ways hopefully, if you know what I mean. A woman must get the attention for others if she wants to be happy. If she doesn't get any, she will be unhappy. She can dress up, go on dates with her husband anything that makes her the centre of attention. This will rise her hormones.

Another things to do is to take black seed, or black cummin (nigella sativa) because it will not only help you be happier, but also help your memory and protect from other things. I hope that this will help you and that you will try it as soon as possible. Nigella sativa is good for anyone, men, women and children.

I will give you a link to a page I like and an author I respect.

Lithium Rich Foods
John Gray, PhD - Lithium orotate

2012/12/04

The invisible Shield that is about to crack

Our definitions of crazy and normal is a giant shield, that in some ways defends us. Because we can relax in believing only what the eyes see. Like the phrase "I don't believe it until I see it". Although, if we seek to expand our lives, we have to take away the shield and see to the other side.

It seems the cracks have appeared in your shield, the other world is coming into your conscious mind.

First of all, I would recommend you to set firm limits. 
Since this can be very exiting it's easy to get lost in it. 
By reciting Qur'an you start building up a strong  and firm protection. Keep reciting Surat al-Fatiha whenever you can. 

Perhaps it is that simple, yet brilliant.  Through time and space, every material has the power to act as an hard drive to energy (what we think and feel).

You are quite brave in embracing this ability to see beyond the shield, and willing to jump right into it. So I applaud you. The ultimate tip I can provide with is write. It will encourage the abilities to grow, as you can prove to yourself the new reality. 

Which opens up the mind to even more powers.
And Allahu Akbar.