2012/12/21

Polygami is the best way to make the marriage blossom again.

I am a very jealous woman. I can't stand the fact that my husband would have another woman. And he has no one. But still, I can't forget about the fact that men are designed to have one or more women in their life, as in marriage. I found this article interesting. It is written by Psychology Today and it says something about men that most of us already know, but don't want to admit: That polygami is the best way for marriage and couples to survive and blossom. Please read more

2012/12/19

Visualizing list of 45 objects - (July 17, 2010)

Two and a half years ago I did a visualization list. I forgot about it, but inside me there has been a lot of changes and also around me. When I looked at the list I was stunned. The first part of it was already realized and manifested in real life. Now i just can't wait for the rest to happen. Want to share the glad joy with me? Read the list and you will know what I mean.
  1. The finger - shahada.
  2. Five prayers - every day.
  3. Fasting more than Ramadan.
  4. Hajj or Pilgrimage. 
  5. Saddaqa - money I give to poor, orphants, hospitals, poor and also those that seem rich, but are in fact poor. 
  6. Reading the Qur'an fluent.
  7. To maintain my homes in Sweden and Tunisia
  8. I cook wonderful food - tunisian, arabian, swedish, italian, spanish food
  9. I have a big  and nice closet of clothes and so does my family
  10. Everybody has got servant and help at home
  11. From morning to evening there is a golden flow of energy sparking around us - activated and shining.
  12. Holidays in Sweden and abroad
  13. Cool dreams about Paradise
  14. The kids are beautiful, smart, healthy and intelligent
  15. I am healthy, vital, smart and intelligent
  16. My husband and i behave perfect both for our self and also at home and outdoors. Love is all around.
  17. Everybody wants to help us and love to give os what we want and what we need.
  18. I have a good, paid work and my Spouse has good working hours and an excellent salary. 
  19. We have saved to live where we want to live, in Sweden and in Tunisia
  20. We travel a lot, by ourselves and with the kids'
  21. Our love is fiery and passionate. 
  22. We develop our hobby - photography, have exhibition and write books.
  23. We have got a Volvo C60 (even though I prefer a jaguar in december 2012) and the children is gonna have one each at their 16th birthday. 
  24. My children have many Muslim friends. They visit the mosque frequently, act exemplary and amuse themselves. They remember to be grateful and they give a lot back. 
  25. Be thankful of my family's beauty and the love of the whole big family around us. 
  26. I have got time to do what I want to do, and that which is good and everybody that wants to join can do so. 
  27. I do a lot of things, and I do it well and the people around me too.
  28. I am engaged in life
  29. I ignore the result for a while, and then I admire it. 
  30. We own a little cottage in the mountain near the ocean. 
  31. I ask the question: Why am I successful, happy, fit and healthy?
  32. I ask the question. Why am I safe and have plenty of time?
  33. Why do I have positive energy, fiery and also thankful?
  34. Why am I happy and how can I create more of happiness for myself and other?
  35. Why does this lovely things happen to me?
  36. In which way are these wonderful moments precious?
  37. Why do I pray a lot? I read the Qur'an and visit Mecka?
  38. How can I show gratitude and also appreciate my self and my family and God even more?
  39. How can I love myself, my family and God even more?
  40. How can I affect life in a positive way for those I love and those that love God?
  41. What should I do to beam even more?
  42. What can I do to get to Paradise and to be excused from Hell?
  43. How can I serve God? How can I contribute? What do I have that I can give? If I know that, I will be part of the flow of positive energy that is around everybody.
  44. How can I give from my heart and receive? The more you have the more you can receive. 
  45. I see it, when I believe it.  
We are right now (December 19, 2012) on number 1-21 (with exception of number 4 and 6). What are your visualization list?

17 things you didn't know about a Muslim

  1. We do not celebrate New Year's Eve, Easter, Halloween, birthdays. We only have two festivals that ends up to three days each. 
  2. We use the veil to show to others that we are Muslims. 
  3. We don't eat porc, dog or ordinary meat, except that which are halal. We don't eat anything that is not halal. The halal way is the same as the kocher way, which the jews do. 
  4. We don't pray to the black stone in Mecka. We pray to God. We are all united and this is shown in the way we stand together towards one qibla, or direction. We don't pray to the moon, nor a moongod. The Prophet Muhammad didn't give us the moon as a symbol, but it became later on as a reminder that we follow the mooncalender instead of the suncalender. 
  5. As I have children, I want them to live a good life. That is why I want them to be Muslims, happy and caring children. My daughter loves princesses and she adores the veil. She has a pink one. 
  6. My mother and father and sisters and brother enjoy talking about islam. They accept everything and tries to understand islam. They accept for example the prayer, my spouse and the veil. 
  7. Islam is not only a realistic religion, but also an ideologic religion, even though the realistic part of it is bigger than the ideologic one. 
  8. I choose my veil - before I got married. 
  9. You cannot live as common-law spouse, nor have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Only the marriage is acceptable as arrangement between a couple. 
  10. Polygami is a solution to a man's health and a woman's happiness and also a solution to the society if one takes a moment to reflect upon it. . 
  11. It is forbidden to kill innocent civil people, women and children. It is also forbidden to hurt animals and destroy the nature around us. 
  12. If you cannot live in the marriage, you are allowed to divorce. But is shouldn't be taken easily, everybody should work on her or his character and attitude first, then counselling and then divorce. 
  13. Of course you can take off the veil everywhere, except where it is people i.e. boys in the puberty and over that age (except for your own family) that can see you. So you can take it off at home, when you sleep, in the shower, with your girl-friends, with your family. The veil is a reminder that you are not like everybody else. Y O U are a M U S L I M and you should be very proud of that. 
  14. The fasting is a blessing. When you fast you shuts the inflow of sugar that nurture the cancercells, and thus kill the cancer. Most of us have cancer within us, even babies are born with cancer today. 
  15. We don't believe in Fatimas hand or that it will protect us. If we do that, we are not Muslims. We believe that it is God that protects us and that we have guardian angels. 
  16. We do believe in Magic and that it is forbidden to use it. 
  17. We also believe in invisible creatures, that life continues after death and that God, Allah, exists.

2012/12/14

How a man and a woman can have what they both want and more.

When most of us think of obedience we think that we are like children or slaves. You have to respect the eldery or the men or the men in charge. But what if respect is another thing? What if respect is admiration and it discharged into love and the fact that you like to listen to his words, because you find him really attractive, or he has a really good character or he has status, like a rockstar, or he is rich. Whatever quality he has, if must be something that you admire. Because if you admire it, you will listen to him. And if you listen to him, you will think that he has many good ideas. This makes you filled with love and joy and you start to change yourself, you will be more attentive to his thoughts and words and you will love what he has to say. You will start to obey him, with love. That is why a woman must admire her husband, somehow. It doesn't matter what, only that he has got something she really likes in him, that she respects.

The man must, to deserve a womans respect, have a job, just something so that she will feel that if she quits her job, she can feel safe. He has to keep in touch with her every day and also not cheating on her. If he can do these things, and he has one of the qualities mentioned above, then the marriage could be a successful one.

But a woman that is a muslim also loves Allah. And if she loves him, she also wants to do what he wants her to do. And a man, if he loves Allah, he will also want to do whatever Allah has charged him with.

If a human being respects Allah, he will adore him and then it will be easy to follow his words, because with love, anything can change.

I will also give you an external link to one of the best websites I have met, so far. Please read it. You will be astonished and inchallah happy as it will develop the understanding of islam in a new and marvellous way. You won't regret it.

hadithandwomen.wordpress.com


2012/12/12

If a woman needs the attention of other men, then she must work with her relationship at home - her husband must notice her and observe her better.

1: Woman’s Pray at Home is better than Going to Mosque and it makes her happy

Narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: Allah’s Apostle said: “Do not prevent women (wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, etc) from (praying at) mosques. Yet, their prayer at home is better (for them).”

2 : Woman’s Freedom to Go out for their Needs i.e. a woman is free to go out as she wishes, and it makes her happy.

Narrated by ‘Aisha: Allah’s Apostle said: “You (women) have been allowed to go out for your needs.”

3 : Evils behind Unnecessary Socialising of Unveiled Women, i.e. a woman that is veiled and is around other women that are veiled makes her much happier than spending time with unveiled women.

Narrated by Ibn Mas’ud: Allah’s Apostle said: “(Unveiled) woman is a cause of corruption. Once she goes out Satan beautifies her in the eyes of men (to seduce her as well as them). At her home, she is the closest (to the face) of her Lord.”

4 : Woman should take the Permission of Her Husband before Going out. When a woman asks the permission of her husband and letting him know where she is, this give her the attention she needs to feel happy. She wants her husband to think of her all the time while she is gone.

Narrated by Ibn Umar: One of the wives of Umar (bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the ‘Isha’ prayer in congregation in the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer as she knew that Umar disliked it, and he has great “ghaira” (self-respect). She replied, “What prevents him from stopping me from this act?” The other replied, “The statement of Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h): ‘Do not stop Allah’s women-slave from going to Allah’s Mosques. “

5: Prohibition on Women Regarding Putting Perfumes when Going out. When a woman wants to smell good it is enough taking a bath or a shower. The freshness of her own odour is much greater than any perfume. In putting perfumes she will have attention from women and men, and this will make her happy. But if she does it in public, she will also have the attention of other men that will start thinking about her instead of their own spouses. Does she want that?

Narrated by Abu Mousa Al Ash’ari: Allah’s Apostle said: “If a woman uses perfume and passes the people so that they may get its odour, she is so-and-so, meaning severe remarks. (i.e. about to commit adultery).”

6 : Prohibition on Women regarding showing her Charms when Going out. In showing your charms to men and women you will feel happy, but do it to your own husband. Make him observe you and do comments on your outfits, body and charm. Flirt with your spouse. If you are flirting with other you might gain a little, but the evil that is therein is much greater. YOU will feel better, but the spouse of the man that you are flirting with will NOT.

Narrated by Fudhalah ibn ‘Ubaid: Allah’s Apostle said: “Three persons are doomed …. Among them a woman whose husband is not present and provides for her; yet she shows her charms to (foreign) men.”

7 : Women should not travel without Mahram. To have the attention of your husband while traveling is one of the best keys to a good marriage. Why would you like to travel alone? The attention you need from your husband to make you happy is enough. If you don't feel happy, maybe your husband is not noticing you as he should. Talk to him immediatly.

Narrated by Ibn ‘Abbas: Allah’s Apostle said: “A woman should not travel except with a Dhu-Mahram (her husband or a man with whom that woman cannot marry at all according to the Islamic Jurisprudence).” A man got up and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! I intend to go to such and such an army and my wife wants to perform Hajj.” The Prophet said (to him), “Go along with her (to Hajj).”

8 : Women should have their own Entrance to the Mosque. Every woman is special, so why not give her a special gift - her own entrance to the mosque. This way she will feel important and thought of and she will also have her concentration on the prayers instead of the men and vice versa.

Narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: Allah’s Apostle said: “Should we leave this entrance (at the Mosque, i.e. Al Masjid AL Nabawi ) only for women to enter.” The sub-narrator, Ibn Nafie’ said: “Ibn ‘Umar did not use this entrance (after that) until his death.”

9 : Women should not walk in the middle of the street. Even though walking in the middle of the street makes a woman happy, it is not a good idea. If she wants to have the attention of other men, then it must be something lacking in her relationship - her husband doesn't notice her.

Narrated by Abi Ausaid Al Ansari: While Allah’s Apostle was going out of the mosque he saw all men and women in the road. He told the women: “You should wait behind. You should not walk in the middle of the road.” The narrator said: “women afterwards used to walk so close to the wall so that their dresses often stick to it.”

10 : Women should perform Tawaf without mingling with men. Even though it might seem difficult to not mixing with men today, you should stay as close to your husband or with other women as you can. This will help the men keep their focus on their mission, instead of your beauty. I know that you will feel sad if the men doesn't notice you, but work on your marriage instead.

Narrated by Ibn Jarieh said ‘Ata had told him when Ibn Hashim prevented women from performing Tawaf with men: how could he prevent them while the wives of the Prophet performed Tawaf with men?” I (i.e. Ibn Jarieh) said: before or after (the verse of) hijab (was revealed)? He said: “Upon my life, after hijab.” “How could they intermix with men?” I asked. “They didn’t,” he replied. “’Aisha used to perform Tawaf at a dividing space from men; she didn’t intermingle with them.”

Sins in islam - good or bad?

Oppression and usury
To oppress other people can make some people happy, as they feel stronger. But the evil of it is greater than the good feelings the person that oppress others are much greater than the good that is therein.

Usury makes people happy too. It will increase peoples wealth, but the evil of the action is greater than the good.

Cheating, theft, telling lies, backbiting, false witness, cursing:
When you feel sexual desires, or in love you think that it is good to cheat with him or her, but the evil is greater than the good. 

When you steal things you feel that you are worth it, but the evil of it is much greater than the good.

When you are telling a lie, to protect yourself, your reputation or gain benefits, you feel good, but the evil is much greater than the good. 

When you are releaving your heart about things you have seen or heard, it makes you feel important or better, but the evil in doing it is greater than the benefit. 

Sometimes you feel good when you protect somebody with not telling the truth, you don't want to witness, but the evil thing in it is greater than the good. 

You neglect cursing others as you do with the flies, you think it is something childish, or out of anger you feel good to cursing others, but the evil in it is greater than the good. 

bribery, homicide, gambling, teaching and spreading harmful ideologies, witchcraft
When you want something badly, or have benefits, or be accepted above others, you might feel that it is a good thing to bribe, but the evil is much worse than the benefits.

Sometimes when you are sad or angry you feel like hitting or even kill a person, but you must know by now that killing or homicide is evil. Even though YOU might feel good for a moment, when releaving all bad feelings, the evil is much more than the good. 

The feeling, or addiction of gambling rises your hormones. You feel excited and good. But the good therein is way much  less than the evil. 

Sometimes, when you meet knew people or a new idea or ideology, you might want to implement those ideas stright off. But the evil might be greater than the benefits, so be careful. 

You are reading the tarotcards, or you are listening to someone who has magic abilities or psychic gifts. You might feel overwhelmed over what she or he says about you, and think that it is good to know yourself and your destiny. But that is only falsehood, right off. The evil in it is much greater than the benefit.

Singing, dancing and dressing up makes a woman happy

I am so tired of hearing that everything that is forbidden can't make you happy. Muslims say that a LOT. That is not true. Singing, dancing and dressing uo Do make us happy, BUT, yes, there is a but, you will not feel happy if you are Not a Muslim and dancing, you will rather cry. perhaps not when you are singing, but afterwards. you will feel empty. but singing with your kids fill your heart with love. dancing around makes us feel happier and more energetic and dressing up will increase our oxytocin, but we only do that for our family, i.e. our husbands, not everyone. but when you sing for everyone, dancing in front of people and dressing up you will feel good too, but the thing is that the same rule as alcohol is implied on everything in life. When the evil is greater than the good, then it is prohibited, forbidden.

How? When a woman attracts orgel peoples attention she will feel good, at the moment. But then, when she knows that she attracts other men's attention and pull it away from his wife's, then it gets evil. Imagine that your husband think of another woman? how does that make you feel? and worse, what if your husband is attracted to another woman right now because she is more sexier than you are? That is why a woman and also a man should wear modest clothes, not sing to each other or dance in front of everyone. If will confuse the feelings of the person watching.

then, think also about how you spend your time. what could you have done instead of confusing people's hearts?

You feel like singing, because singing makes you laugh, and dance and it makes you happy, and if you do it in front of an audience you will be more happy. BUT, yes, there is a but, the thing is that when you spend your day, your life and your time with learning the songs, you forget about everything else. Why is that bad? Because you will forget about where you come from and where you are heading. It will make it difficult to keep your mind in focus for where you are going to go and the afterlife. Sing for your family and your children, and stay away from official performances.

If you like to dance, then dance. Dance makes you feel good and happy. That is not the question. But, yes there is a but, when you dance in front of others, you will start having eyes on you, people that will admire you, perhaps even an evil eye or two. You will also, in that moment have men's or women's attention and they will start thinking of you. Dance, but in your own house or with your friends. Stay away from mixed places.

When you dress yourself up, it is to give you attention. This is not a bad thing. It is good to have the attention of other women and men. But, yes there is a but, when you do this in front of others then can start feel bad, ugly, not good enough. Their husbands will start thinking of you instead of their own spouses. You feel good, but the result is that you will be a cause of disturbing other peoples minds and hearts. Dress up in front of your husband instead and make him say that you are lovely. Teach him to observe you - tell him that is makes you happy - and that he always must remark things that you change in your look. This will make both you and your spouse happy. When you are happy - then your spouse is too.

These are just three things. There are plenty of more things to make you happy.

Until then, salam aleikum.

2012/12/09

Why doesn't anybody come to help you and is it bad to be lonely?

I don't know why nobody came to visit you. They should have done that. 

Many people today are not aware of the things they do to other people. One thing that I think of is that you must change things in your life. You should start with yourself. 

The first thing to do is to start taking Lithium Orotate. Lithium is a mineral that is in food, especially milk, eggs and tomatoes. If you don't eat these things everyday, it is a good chance that you are depressed and lonely. That you are lonely is not a probleme really, because you are a guy, (women must have friends - without them they will be unhappy) but you should have a job to go to, a plan for your life. Without a plan you will be lost in life. 

I know that you cannot feel this right now, as there is a lack of vitamins and enzymes in your brain. Every girl and guy who feels this are lacking good nutritial food. 

Then you should start moving yourself. It doesn't need to be much - only sitting where you are right now and shaking your hands or arms. This will make your hands tingle. This is hormones that are spreading through your body - happinesshormones. The more you move, the more happinesshormones your will get. 

You also should marry soon. Marriage is essential, but not before you have a job and a home. 

Try to give somebody your attention - your mother for example. Listen to what she says - without commenting on it. This will lower her stress. You don't have to do anything and musn't answer, only listen. She will start giving you the attention you need. Your father will respect you when you have a job and when you are married. MAke them proud. I respect your ability to write - use it to help others. Kindly regards.

Respect is one key to true love

Many people want me to find somebody for them. This cannot be done by me. Never. Why?

If you want to marry somebody, and find love, Internet is not the place to look for women or search love.

Firstly, you cannot get somebody's attention or respect this way. There are so many things you must do and have before you can interact with someone.

Secondly, this way, internet, is not the place to find women that will respect you. You have to have a woman's respect and that she admires you before she will do anything for you, like respond to your question. This way, with internet as a mean, she doesn't respect you - she cannot, because she doesn't know you - how could she?

Respect is one a the keys to good relationships and true love.

Do you feel tired, depressed and want to vanish or even kill yourself? Try this.


I have felt tired, depressed and wanted to vanish from stress. This is some advice for men and women, but you have to know that women react to stress differently. Women has to talk to releave stress. Men don't.

I know that many people today are feeling the same thing - they are tired, exhausted, and feel stressed out.

One thing that can help you very soon is to take lithium orotate. Lithium is a mineral that is important for happiness. Most things today that you do and eat stress your body and in the brain of many people there is inflammation. You find lithium in foods, especially in mineral water and you can also find it in milk, egg and potatoes and many more. Se link below.

You also have to move a little, the more you move your arms and body, the easier it is for glucose, vitamines and minerals to go into your brain. You must, as a man, also diminish your stress, i.e. watch television for a while or something else that you like to do. Women need to talk a lot to diminish the stress and the inflammation in the brain and the body. If she doesn't talk, she will be very sick. She also have to help other people, with advice, money, cleaning, listening or other things that she can help others with etc. That will help her get happiness as her oxytocin-hormones go up.

If a man don't have a job, you have to have one. This will give you the respect you need to feel happy. After that it is good for you to be married, because it will help you in other ways hopefully, if you know what I mean. A woman must get the attention for others if she wants to be happy. If she doesn't get any, she will be unhappy. She can dress up, go on dates with her husband anything that makes her the centre of attention. This will rise her hormones.

Another things to do is to take black seed, or black cummin (nigella sativa) because it will not only help you be happier, but also help your memory and protect from other things. I hope that this will help you and that you will try it as soon as possible. Nigella sativa is good for anyone, men, women and children.

I will give you a link to a page I like and an author I respect.

Lithium Rich Foods
John Gray, PhD - Lithium orotate

2012/12/04

The invisible Shield that is about to crack

Our definitions of crazy and normal is a giant shield, that in some ways defends us. Because we can relax in believing only what the eyes see. Like the phrase "I don't believe it until I see it". Although, if we seek to expand our lives, we have to take away the shield and see to the other side.

It seems the cracks have appeared in your shield, the other world is coming into your conscious mind.

First of all, I would recommend you to set firm limits. 
Since this can be very exiting it's easy to get lost in it. 
By reciting Qur'an you start building up a strong  and firm protection. Keep reciting Surat al-Fatiha whenever you can. 

Perhaps it is that simple, yet brilliant.  Through time and space, every material has the power to act as an hard drive to energy (what we think and feel).

You are quite brave in embracing this ability to see beyond the shield, and willing to jump right into it. So I applaud you. The ultimate tip I can provide with is write. It will encourage the abilities to grow, as you can prove to yourself the new reality. 

Which opens up the mind to even more powers.
And Allahu Akbar.

2012/11/14

Stressed out, depressed, annoyed or angry?

Don't listen to your own thoughts, i.e. don't obey your thoughts. Many of your thoughts are from your personal Shaytan and he only wants to lead you astray. Challenge every thought and say "Keep your mouth shut" to him sometimes.

2012/11/13

My travelmap with favourite places

I love to travel. This is my travelmap:



 
   

         
  1. Mecka, Saudiarabien

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  3. Disneyland Paris, Frankrike

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  5. Tönsberg, Norge

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  7. Tunis, Tunisien

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  9. Medina, Saudiarabien

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    • Skapa en egen resekarta.

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      2012/11/09

      Step 5 - The "field" of all possibilities - Accessible even if you don't know al-Wahhâb

      Step 5 - The Field of All Possibilities is always accessible even if you don't know al-Wahhâb, Allâh, who is The Most Liberal Bestower, The Great Giver, The Giver of Gifts.

      Today, we will delve into the field of all possibilities that reveals itself in the state of prayer. The unlimited power of al-Wahhâb is always available to you. Making intuitive choices, or asking for guidance in Istikhara is grounded in this unified field, and it will help you have your deepest desires, especially that of being forgiven.

      When going about your daily life, continue to cultivate stillness in your prayer whenever possible. Spend time in nature, absorb its beauty, and notice how its abundance is spread before you. Bask in the energy of beautiful recitation of the Qur'an; uplifting and inspirational stories; and optimistic, like-minded people. As you do this, you'll find the field of all possibilities will open wide to help your dreams, hopes, and desires come to fruition, because you know that He, Allâh, is al-Wahhâb.

      This name is used in the Qur'ân. For example, see 3:8



      With regard to mankind's role in giving, Abû Hâmid al-Ghazâlî notes that:

      Whoever bestows gifts with an eye to some interest to be realized by it sooner or later, be it appreciation, affection or release from blame, or or acquiring distinction of mention - he is neither a giver nor generous, but rather engaged in transaction and recompense. ... But the one who sacrifices all he owns, even his life, for the sake of God alone - such a one is worthy of being named giver and generous.
      Our centering thought for today is:

      "Today, I embrace my potential to be, do, and have whatever I can dream because I know al-Wahhâb who is the Most Liberal Bestower, The Great Giver, the Giver of Gifts, and the best gift is that of being forgiven"

      Today's invocation and its English essence are:


      My Lord, forgive me and my parents and whoever enters my house as a believer and the believing men and believing women. Noah: 28

      Until we meet in the unified field,

      Assalem aleikum

      2012/11/08

      Step 4 - The state of a mind, heart and soul that is close to al-Qoddos

      Step 4 - To know the One who is pure from any imperfection and clear from children and adversaries, Al-Qoddos

      In our time together today, we will explore the concept of pure consciousness, and get to know al-Qoddos, Allah. Pure consciousness, i.e. a state of a mind, heart and soul that is close to Allah, is that which reappears as we release the world of the physical, the world of thoughts, perceptions, beliefs, and feelings. We reach pure consciousness through the practice of meditation, dhikr and prayer.

      Once in a while, out of the fog of thoughts, a clear patch will emerge. If we are quiet, still and invocing Allah, we can get gloser to The One who is pure from any imperfection and clear from children and adversaries we encounter moments of pure silence. Through these gaps of stillness, we can glimpse the deepest level of the soul. Each glimpse increases our understanding, and eventually our consciousness becomes expanded. In this way, we transcend the three-dimensional world so to speak and slip into pure consciousness, Allah willing.

      The process of the purification of the soul should start with the purification of the body: It is essential to take shower, cleaning yourself with water before you enter the state of prayer. You must clean yourself with water also after relieving yourself, trimming your hair, brushing your teeth, cleaning your clothes, washing your face, hands and feet and so on.

      There are several hadiths about the purification of the body. It is essential as it is half of the religion. There is a whole book of Purification (Kitab al-Tahara) about this. The book of Tahara also tells you when and how often you should purify your body and clothes.

      It is also good to use some musk after taking a shower or washing your self, as the odour is essential for the well-being.

      Then we should start praying.

      According to the Sunnah, one should say, Allâhu Akbar" when commencing lifting from prostration and prolongs the same words till he has sat straight. One should say what the Prophet (PBUH) was reported to have said.

      Abu Hudhaifa, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that when the Prophet (PBUH) performed late-night optional prayer he recited the chapters of Al-Baqarah, al-Imran and an-Nisaa' and he would say between the two prostrations, "rabby eghfir li rabby eghfir li" (O my Lord! Forgive me, O my Lord! Forgive me.) He sat for a while that equaled the duration of his prostration.

      Our centering thought for today is:

      "From this moment forward, I repent and I accept and invite al-Bâsit, al-Qoddos, Allah and His unlimited abundance into my life"

      Today's invocation and its English essence are:

      Allaho Akbar, Allaho al-Akbar and Rabby eghfir li, Rabby eghfir li

      God is Greater or God is the Greatest O my Lord! Forgive me. O my Lord! Forgive me.

      I look forward to our time in the stillness.

      2012/11/07

      Step 3 - Mind, matter and Spirit

      Step 3 - Mind, matter and Spirit


      If you know how to invoke Allâh the right way, you can have your share of all the abundance He has created. He is al-Bâsit. In today's meditation (i.e. reflection without interruption), supplications and prayers, we'll continue our first steps on our journey into the abundant life.

      The word "abundance" can mean different things to different people. For instance, one person may consider amassing great wealth as living an abundant life. Another may define abundance in spiritual terms—to be, do, and have a life filled with love, joy, harmony, peace, health, and vitality. Throughout our time together, we'll explore what abundance is at its core, how we can prepare ourselves to receive more of all good things, and how we can transform any limiting beliefs we may have held up until now.

      Allâh is The Unfolder, The Expander, The Releaser
      Allâh is the One who makes ample and plentiful all that is needed. The One who expands and amplifies all abundance. He is the One who makes the way wide and open. The One who stretches out a helping hand to mankind. The One whose open hand releases joy, comfort and abundance. He is the One who infuses the soul into body. The One who has filled the heart with spiritual abundance. The One whose glory and abundance fill and expand the heart. 

      Allâh is Al-Azeem (The Magnificent)
      Anas said the Prophet (PBUH) said, "He who sees something and admires it, he should say, "ma shaal lâh la qowwata illa billah" (What Allâh wills occurs. There is no power but through Allâh.) For these words prevent  the influence of the evil eye." (narrated by Ibnus-Sunni)

      Sahl Ibn Hanif reported that the Prophet (PBUH) said, "When one of you sees something he admires best in himself or property, he should invoke Allâhs blessings upon it (that is to say, Allâhumma barik lanâ fihi, O Allâh! Confer blessings upon it.)This is because the influence of an evil eye is true." (narrated by Ibnus-Sunni)

      Sa'id Ibn HAkim said, "When the Prophet feared that his eye might influence something, he would say these words, "Allâhumma bârik fihi wa la tadurruh" (O Alllâh! Bless it for us and protect it against damage." (narrated by Ibnus-Sunni)

      Imam Abu Muhammad Husain the judge said, "One of the Prophets looked at his people one day and wondered at their large number and admired them so much. In a short while seventy thousand people died. Thereupon Allâh revealed to him that he envied them and if he safeguarded them, they would not perish. The Prophet asked, "How can I protect them?" Allâh revealed to him that he should say, "hassantukum bilhayy alqayyoum alladhi lâ yamoutu abadan wa dafa'ta 'ankum assou'a bilâ hawlin wa lâ quwwata ellâ billâ al'aleyy al'azeem." (I protect you with Allâh, the Living and the Everlasting. I seek your being protected against evil through my words, 'there is no power or ability but through the assistance of Allâh, the Supreme and the Greatest.)

      Aesha said, "Allâh's Prophet (PBUH) used to say whenever he saw something he like, "alhamdu lillahi bi ne'amatihi tatemmu assalihat" (Praise is due to Allâh owing to whose munificence and grace that good deeds are accomplished.) If he disklike what he saw, he would say, "alhamdu lillahi 'ala kulli hâl (Praise is due to Allâh in all circumstances.)

      Ibn 'Abbas reported Allâh's Prophet (PBUH) as saying , "The Influence of an evil eye is true, and if anything else would precede the destiny, it would be the influence of an evil eye, and when you are asked to take bath (as a cure) from the influence of an evil eye, you should take bath." (narrated by Muslim)

      Our centering thought for today is:

      “Today, I focus on what I want to attract into my life and I say, Allâhumma barik lanâ fihi, O Allâh! Confer blessings upon it  and Allâhumma bârik fihi wa la tadurruh, O Alllâh! Bless it for us and protect it against damage”

      Today's invocation is::

       "Alhamdu lillahi bi ne'amatihi tatemmu assalihat" 

      and its English essence are

      Praise is due to Allâh owing to whose munificence and grace that good deeds are accomplished.

      This is to be said regularly  as soon as you think of something you like, if you want anything which is good for you and avoid things and be protected against which are not good for you.

      Four questions you ask yourself every day.

      One of the biggest issues for many people is to get rid of these questions that they pose themselves everyday. 

      The first question is What's wrong with me? 
      The second is What's going to happen?
      The third question is How will I ever get out of this?
      The fourth question is Where will the money come from?

      The biggest mistake one does everyday is to think that your thoughts are either yours or that they are your enemy.  The truth is that it is neither. One of the biggest issues for every man and woman is to get rid of the bad thoughts that lead you astray. We obsess and worry. We are haunted by everything that we don't want to think about. This is because your enemy is always close to you, always, except if you read the Qur'an or mention Allah's name. He knows everything that makes you feel afraid, sad, melancholic, angry, passive, ignorant. He knows you better than you do yourself, because it is his work to know you. It is not Allâh that I am talking about, but your Shaytan, the one and only that accompany you even during Ramadan, when all the others are chained. 

      So to get some peace of mind you have to say Allah's name repeatedly, because the second you stop, he will return. Everyday suffering is largely mental and this must stop. 

      So, 

      1. "What's wrong with you?"
      2. "What's going to happen?"
      3. "How will you ever get out of this?"
      4. "Where will the money come from?"

      Making these thoughts go away is extremely difficult, but it is not possible.

      Step 1. Replace these thoughts with the every verse you know from the Qur'an. If you only know Al-Fatiha, that is sufficient. Repeat it all the time from you wake up until you lay down in your bed. If you feel something, remind yourself that these feelings are from Shaytan and probably you will notice that you have stopped reciting the Qur'an. 

      Step 2. Know the source of these questions and try to answer them. Your thoughts are persistent and can not be resolved themselves. Normally, the solutions you try to find don't work either. You ignore the nagging questions—a form of denial—or you reassure yourself that there is nothing actually wrong, which, ironically, only stokes the worry and doubt. Another tactic? We try to offset our anxiety by proving our worth through the pursuit of money, power and accomplishment. This can result in riches and success, but it doesn't put end to the fear or the idea that the future holds something dreadful and unknown. 

      It's necessary to try a new way, one that allows our mind tio be our friend and not our enemy. To do that, we have to move from the level of the problem to the level of the solution. The first step is to take an honest look at what the four questions are doing to you and where they come from.

      "What's wrong with me?"
      This question is important to ask yourself, every day. Life is about improving your faith, purify your heart and mind. But if you listen to your personal Shaytan  that knows you better than yourself, he will push the buttons and increase all the things you hate, just to make you feel bad, or to make you forget or just to be ignorant. He uses your personal insecurity, self-doubt, and judgment against yourself. 
      When people wrestle with self-doubt, they generally get stuck saying opposite things to themselves: "There's nothing wrong with me" one day and "I'm a mess. Everything is wrong with me" the next, as circumstances swing from good to bad. Neither extreme is true, but that's not the point. The false answer becomes a ritual, a fixed response that gets nowhere. Other ritualistic thoughts would include "I keep doing this to myself," "I'm stupid," "I'm all alone," "I never get a break" and so on. These ritualistic thoughts are from Shaytan. He is like a radio in your head that talks to you. It is like a whisper. It is not only your own thoughts, but only one whisper from him and your own thoughts will repeat his words, if you don't stop it, with recitation from the Qur'an or just saying Allâhs name over and over again. The moment you stop, he will be back.

      The answer to the rest of the questions are: Qur'an and Allâh. The answer for the second question is in the Qur'an, your future is that which will begin after death. So read the Qur'an and the hadiths that will tell you more about it. For the remaining questions: It is Allâh who will get you out of your current situation, because every situation is a test and he wants you test your behaviour in the situation your are in currently. It is Allâh who will give you sustenance and money, that is the answer to the fourth question.

      Step 2 - The source of all Abundance - al-Bâsit

      Step 2 - The Source of all Abundance

      The Source of all Abundance is Allâh - al-Bâsit. 
      Yes, it is Allah who creates abundance. 

      The term Bâsit includes a powerful and majestic sense of infusing into something a gift which will grow and flourish in great abundance.

      If you know how to invoke Allâh the right way, you can have your share of all the abundance He has created. In today's meditation (i.e. reflection without interruption), supplications and prayers, we'll continue our first steps on our journey into the abundant life.

      The word "abundance" can mean different things to different people. For instance, one person may consider amassing great wealth as living an abundant life. Another may define abundance in spiritual terms—to be, do, and have a life filled with love, joy, harmony, peace, health, and vitality. Throughout our time together, we'll explore what abundance is at its core, how we can prepare ourselves to receive more of all good things, and how we can transform any limiting beliefs we may have held up until now.

      Allâh is The Unfolder, The Expander, The Releaser
      Allâh is the One who makes ample and plentiful all that is needed. The One who expands and amplifies all abundance. He is the One who makes the way wide and open. The One who stretches out a helping hand to mankind. The One whose open hand releases joy, comfort and abundance. He is the One who infuses the soul into body. The One who has filled the heart with spiritual abundance. The One whose glory and abundance fill and expand the heart. 

      'Abdullah Ibn Abu Awfa said, "Allâh's Prophet (PBUH) said, "He who begs Allâh for some need or asks someone else for a thing should perform ablution properly, offer two rak'as of prayer, glorify Allâh and invoke Allâh's blessing upon the Prophet (PBUH) then say, "la elaha ella Allâhu alhaleem alkareem subhana Allâhi rabbil 'arsh al'azeem alhamdu lillahi rabbil 'alameen asaluka mojibati rahmatik wa 'azaema maghfiratik wal ghaneemah min kulli birr wawwalamah min kulli ethm la tada' li dhanban ella ghafartah wa la hamman ella farrgtah wa la hajatan heya laka redan ella qadaitaha ya arhamar rahimin" (There is no god but Alâh, the Forbearing and the Munificent. Glory be to Allâh, the Lord of the Grand Throne. Praise is due to Allâh, the Lord of all worlds. I plead with You for Your mercy and forgiveness. Make me gain benefit from good deeds andmake me safe from sins. Forgive all my sins. Drive away my worries and trouble. Help me satisfy my need that pleases You, the All-Merciful.) One can also say, "O All! Grant us a good recompense in this world and a good reward in the Hereafter and protect us against the torment of Hell."

      Our centering thought for today is:

      “It is Allâh who is the infinite source of abundance and  it is He who creates my personal abundance.”

      Today's invocation and its English essence are:

      "O Allâh! Grant us a good recompense in this world and a good reward in the Hereafter and protect us against the torment of Hell" 

      This is to be said during prayer of need or if you want abundance of anything which is good for you.

      Step 1 - The reality of Abundance

      Step 1 - The Reality of Abundance

      How do be create abundance? Can we create abundance? Isn't that what Allah does? Yes, it is Allah who creates abundance. But, if you know how to invoke Allâh the right way, you can have your share of all the abundance He has created. 

      In today's meditation (i.e. reflection without interruption), supplications and prayers, we'll take our first steps on our journey into the abundant life. 

      The word "abundance" can mean different things to different people. For instance, one person may consider amassing great wealth as living an abundant life. Another may define abundance in spiritual terms—to be, do, and have a life filled with love, joy, harmony, peace, health, and vitality. Throughout our time together, we'll explore what abundance is at its core, how we can prepare ourselves to receive more of all good things, and how we can transform any limiting beliefs we may have held up until now.

      Ibn 'Omar said, "I heard Allâh's Prophet (PBUH) say, "There were three men who lived before you and set out on a journey. During their journey they had to spend the night in a cave. They entered it and immediately a huge rock fell off the mountain and obstructed the entrance of the cave. Thereupon they said to each other. "The only thing that can rid us of this rock is to supplicate Allâh through our good deeds." One of them said imploringly, "O Allâh! My parents were aged and I took care of them generously and sincerely." After they all invoked Allâh through their best deeds, each one of them said, "O Allâh! If you know that I did that for Your sake, then relieve us of this situation." Indeed, the rock began to be gradually displaced till it had been fully dislogded at the invocation of the third man. Finally they got out of the cave and proceeded with their journey." (narrated by al-Bukhari and Muslim)

      So, invoke Allâh through your good deeds and think about them and use them, to gain abundance.

      Our centering thought for today is:

      "Today, I behold all the abundance that surrounds me. Thanks to Allâh"

      Today's invocation and its English essence are:

      "The doers of good are blameless" (At-tawbah: 91)

      The whole verse (At-tawbah : 91)


      "Laysa AAala adduAAafa-iwala AAala almarda wala AAalaallatheena la yajidoona ma yunfiqoona harajunitha nasahoo lillahi warasoolihi maAAala almuhsineena min sabeelin wallahughafoorun raheem"

      "It shall be no crime in the weak, nor in the sick, nor in those who do not find what they should spend (to stay behind), so long as they are sincere to Allah and His Messenger; there is no way (to blame) against the doers of good; and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful" (Shakir)

      I'm looking forward to beginning our journey together.

      2012/11/06

      Focus on the Muslim man again, as he has become ignorant

      As woman, man enjoys an equal share as to rights, responsibilities and duties, all of which are best suiting his nature. Since science confirmed that man is created with so many differences in his biological nature, physical capabilities and mental faculties, it would be unfair to assign him the same responsibilities, duties and rights as woman.

      In other words, there is a difference between sameness and equality. As woman and man are not the same in terms of biological nature, physical capabilities and mental faculties, so they are not the same and it would be unjustice to deal with both the same. But to put into consideration this difference of nature is regarded as the ore of justice and equality, the methodology adopted by Islam, the religion of the Creator of both woman and man.

      The source book of Ibn Taymayah comprises so many subjects that mostly concern man rather than woman. So the focus was centered on Fatwas which are confined to man along with others that might appear to be interesting to man.

      The jurists are all agreed that it is forbidden to touch the Qur'an while one is in a state of impurity.

      A man should not see the private part of another man and a woman should not see the private part of another woman.

      Most men today are ignorant about their responsibilities. They are focusing on the women and they forget about their duties. For example, the husband should talk to his in-laws politely and decently. That is the wife's right of him.

      We must return the focusing part on the men again, because they are ignorant, and they are lacking knowledge and taqwah. There has been a huge focus on the woman, now it is man's turn.

      2012/11/01

      10 Tips to Fight Depression !

      Assalam O Alaykum
      I would like to share this article,which is very usefull for everyone.

      Well, from last few days, I am xtrmly depressed, so, I was looking for some solution.and i found this article.

      ..

      Feeling down in the dumps, depressed, having the blues: these are just some of the terms used to describe a feeling of hopelessness and despair that can hit even the most optimistic of us at some point in our lives. While clinical depression requires proper professional treatment, the occasional feeling of sadness due to factors ranging from economic difficulty to harassment and discrimination can be helped through some simple spiritual practices. Here are a couple that can help:

      1. Look at those below you

      The Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Whenever you see someone better than you in wealth, face or figure, you should look at someone who is inferior to you in these respects” (Bukhari, Muslim). If you are reading this article online, consider this: you are one of the lucky set of human beings on the planet who can afford a computer and internet connection or at least have access to one. The United Nations Development Program’s 2007 Human Development Report notes that there are still around 1 billion people living worldwide at the margins of survival on less than $1 a day, with 2.6 billion living on less than $2 a day. Also consider that in the Quran (14:7), God says that if you are thankful to Him for what you have, He blesses you with more.

      2. Serve your fellow human beings

      The best way to thank God is to serve humanity, especially those who have less than you. Serving others is uplifting and rewarding. It helps us gain a better perspective on life’s challenges, making us realize how very often, are problems seem so small compared to the awesome difficulties others face. That’s why when the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, and the Muslims were a small, poor and persecuted community, they used to give to the poor even more. They understood that when you are generous when you have less, you achieve the perspective of a winner. You are focused on the bigger picture.

      3. Read Surah Ad Duha

      According to one report, after the Prophet had begun receiving revelation from God, at one point a long period of time passed with no such communication from Allah. As a result, the Makkans ridiculed the Prophet and he became severely depressed. That’s when this chapter was revealed (Quran 93: 1-11). The chapter is a beautiful reminder to us to see life in the greater scheme of things, to be grateful for what we have and to never give up striving for what is right. This chapter of the Quran can be considered a direct recipe from God for depression.

      4. Turn to God in all situations

      Remember that nothing can harm you without the consent of God. While you must take care of yourself, rely on God and know that He is always with you and only He can give you strength in difficult times. Also remember that He will help you can come out of a trying situation as a better person if you deal with it positively.

      5. Remember God’s Names

      God has many beautiful Names which describe His attributes and powers. These are reminders of His Love, Mercy, Forgiveness, Justice, Strength and much, more. Supplicating to God using these Names reminds us that God has these attributes more than any other being and that we can and must rely on Him during good and bad times.

      6. Say ‘Hasbun Allahu wa Ni’ mal Wakeel‘;

      This can be be translated as “God suffices me and He is the best guardian.” It is an excellent way of reminding us that whatever worries we have or problems we face, God has the answer and cure to all of them and is the only One who can really do what is best for us.

      7. Make sure when you leave home,

      you read this Dua ‘In the name of Allah, I place my trust in Allah, and there is no might nor power except with Allah.’ Bismillahe tawakkaltu alAllahe la haula wa la quwwata illa biAllah.

      8. Take your spiritual break from the world,

      five times a day and in the late nights or early mornings. Taking a break away from school, work or other life activities to spend a few minutes to remember God helps you reconnect with the Creator of the Universe, fortify your soul and strengthen your resolve to live a better life that is in tune with your faith and principles.

      9. End your day on a good note

      Shakespeare once wrote a play entitled “All’s well that ends well.” That’s good advice for dealing with depression too. End a day that may have been riddled with challenges and frustrations by making Wudu before going to bed, thinking of God and the Prophet and counting every blessings you have

      10. Stop Shaytan in his tracks

      Shaytan is the source of many of our negative emotions. It’s his job to make us feel pessimistic and to despair of any good in life. When you feel these feelings coming on, stop him dead in his tracks: say Aoutho billahi minash Shaytan ir Rajeem (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed satan).

      I pray, Almighty will remove these pains from my heart,and make this post useful for muslims brothers and sisters…

      Ameen!

      KING

      slave of ALLAH SWT

      Source: islamgreatreligion.wordpress.com

      2012/10/31

      Look how Media work with "facts"!

      Look how media work.

      In Tunisia it is stable, even though there is some incidents with the American Embassy and other thing, but in France, media only shows these images every week, which gives the French people the feeling that these sort of things happens every day.

      In spite of terrible "facts" about Tunisia that is not at all real, more than 900,000 tourists came this year and an increase of 35% since last year when the Yasmine-revolution began.

      This is how Media work with the picture of another country. When New York is under water they cry for help, but when Pakistan was under water, nobody came, because Media didn't focus on the positive side of Pakistan at all under the rest of the year, while New York is associated with positive feelings...

      That is also how Media work with the image of Muslims.

      In spite the bad associations people have of Muslims, because Media gives a bad image of them, people are converting to Islam and become Muslims every day. Why? Because Media has only focused on a couple of things, and they don't tell the truth, not the whole truth. They only focus on what they want people to feel and think, and in this case that Muslims are bad people, which they are not, even though there are some bad grains...

      2012/10/29

      When is The magic time of the day?

      There is a magic time every day. This time of the day is when the children are harmonious and playing well. It is a time when we all feel well and we are conscious about the present and we are here and now. That is also  what love is about. When you are in love you are in the present time, not thinking about the past nor the future. That is why it feel so good.

      The magic time is also when you wake up at night, and you feel yourself flow withing. You feel calm and want to stay up all night long. The night is magic, because it sweeps us into our house, and we close are windows and doors. We heat up the house with fire or radiators and the house feels warm, even thought it is cold outside. The rain is also magic. When it rains we can feel all stress pooring away with the rain. There is no stress of doing anything.

      There must be a time for darkness and there must be a time for light. Light is good and darkness too. They help each other, because if we didn't knew the light how could we understand the importance of the darkness?

      The body needs both darkness, and light. Sleep quickly when the night is come and wake up as quickly as possible before the light is come. Then you will experience more of the magic of the day and the night. 

      School - it is chaotic - what should we do?

      I have noticed that the school in Sweden can be great, or really bad. There are violence, people beating teachers without any reconciliation, children who don't come to classes but pass to the next year. There are so many things wrong with the Swedish school, yet, the teachers are very well trained and good at teaching. The problem is that the children don't have any home-work to do. The teachers let the children have too much leisure time. This time is spent on playing on video-games, friends or watching movies all night. Children in other countries like Tunisia don't have this pleasure of leisure. From 8. a.m. to 22 p.m. it is all about studies, either in school, home or with a tutor from Monday to Saturday.

      So, what shall they do with their leisure time? They have so little spare-time. They don't go to Cinema, nor do they go to play-grounds or other institutions for children, cause there are not any. Children in Sweden are very spoiled. They have everything, except morals. The teachers don't cope with the children, because there are too many. That is not a problem really, except that every child has to have attention all the time, unless it will become bored. Many children have ADHD, or ADD or are hyperactive. That is another problem. They don't eat the same as the children did 50 years ago. They eat a lot of Adds like E621, Coca Cola, and sugary stuff. Today everything has sugar in it. That is really chaos. Add to it the food the children eat in school. All children who play play-station, eat chocolate, drink Cola will certainly be hyperactive. And the parents don't have the time, nor the pleasure to cook at home and the school-kitchen don't have the right to serve good food. They have to serve sugar (carbohydrates) every day.


      Hear the voice of your soul

      I am too sometimes very sad, and have tried to develop a strategy to get through the day. It is difficult to listen to your soul, because the soul wants so many things, so you get confused. Then don't forget about the whispers in your heart, that are not good to listen to. And you must no follow the whims of you soul either at any time, because the soul wants this life and not God. Soul is not just one. The soul is composed into more than one. It has its divine and good part, but also a part that wants everything in life and makes you alert and active. Both of them exist within yourself and both of them influence your moods. It is not difficult to understand which one you are in when you are depressed and which part of the soul that influence you when you feel "alive". Depression is a good way to figure out life and life mustn't be just a lot of acitivites and good "feelings". The depression tells you that you are far from God, that is all. The only thing that can bring you to God is to stay up at night, praying... That is the best way to have your "depressed soul" happy, and you will soon go back to the active life you had before.

      2012/10/28

      Five reasons people don't care about Muslims and islam

      Yes, it is true. People don't care about Muslims and Islam, most of them. And people who "care" they don't love Islam, they hate Islam, and want people to go astray, leave Islam, telling them that Islam is with a false God, that Islam is oppressing women, that Islam has nothing to give except terror and fatigue.

      1. My fault?

      This is not my fault only. I have tried to be the best Muslim I can be, so far. But it is hard to be a Muslim today. Most Muslims are not even close to the characters of the prophets or the sahabas, their companions. The Muslims today act like they are superior to other people because they know the truth - that is not a good Muslim. A good Muslim is the contrary. He feels sympathy with people and take care of them, and tries to be the best he can be around them.

      2. The Character of the Muslims

      I know Muslims that are "good" Muslims, but they hate people around them. Was that the case with Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him? Did he hate people? No, the contrary. He loved them. He felt that they were equal towards Allah and should be treated that way. But Allah intervened him and said that he mustn't let people hurt him. He must defend himself and his Muslim society from evil. He can't let the Muslims bleed while watching them being beaten. No, he has to defend himself. But did he do that the way people do today? Did he kill innocent people? Never. He only protected himself from people who wanted to hurt him. People who had swords in their hands, trying to kill his family. Self-defence is important if you want to survive. Without self-defence you can't continue as a Muslim.

      So what about Muslims today? Are they defending themselves? Yes, they are. Everyday. They are trying to defend their society, their faith and their beliefs. But it is difficult to argument sometimes as most people don't listen with their reason, but with their hate that they have in their heart towards Islam. If hate exist, there is no chance that you can reach out to a person anyhow and anywhere.

      If you want to do dawah and invite people to Islam you must start with your own Character. Then you can have a blog or something so that people can reflect upon the basics of Islamic Faith. But that is the problem. Most people don't behave like Muslims should do. Most people don't pray night-prayers every night. Most people don't even wake up to Fajr and still call themselves believers. Most people don't share their money with others, nor do they give saddaqa. Most people don't put their trust to Allah when it comes to marriage and striving for the sake of Allah. Most people don't put the trash in the garbage, but on the street instead, forgetting that they mustn't pollute and hurt the environment. They do everything that is against Islam and still call themselves Muslims.

      3. Muslims feel proud

      Muslims should never feel proud of themselves and their society, because I see, hear and feel that Muslims today are far away from Islam, even if they pray five times a day, even if they don't drink alcohol nor do they cheat on their wives nor do they eat porc. Muslims that fast are not "good" Muslims, even though many Muslims today believe that they are. Ohh.. He is so knowledgable.. He must be a good Muslim. No, a good Muslim is the person who obeys Allah in everything, abstaining from most pleasure in life i.e. Music, dancing with Music, flirting with women or men, etc. And a good Muslim is not harsh either, but gentle, soft and kind towards every animal, child, man and woman, old and young. He smiles a lot, even though he is strict upon doing the prayers at time, praying at night etc.

      4. Muslims don't stay up praying all night long

      If you find a guy or a girl who stays up all night praying and reading the Qur'an and do a lot of dawah during the day day, you are closer to the real Muslim.

      5. The Muslim are more like hypocrites today, and real Muslims are treasures, very rare to find

      Don't be delusioned  by Muslims who fast, don't drink alcohol or talk about Islam. They are not "the good Muslim". No a good Muslim is so much more than that. He or she is the best person that you dream of marrying. THAT is the good Muslim.

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      Is islam compatible with the idea of Evolution?

      Yes of course it is. But not the way Darwin intended. Who has ever read his books about his theories really? Most people only repeat what they hear in school and don't try to go back to the source. They believe what ever the books in school tells you. So was Darwin right about our heritage from the monkeys? I am not so sure about that.

      It IS a fact that we come from water and clay as the Qur'an tells us. Even science prove that we once came from water somehow. But then... What happened? That is the real question. Allah tells us that Adam was created from clay and that he made Eve from his rib. That is what scientist should focus on now because we are not closer to Apes than we are to Pigs or Flies, genetically seen, even if some scientists want to acclaim our connection with the Ape. 

      How to prevent yourself from evil during the evening and the night!

      My doctor told me to close the doors and the windows from sunset until 9-10 a.m. This was due to the fact that I am sensible towards moisture and humidity. But I also thought about it. I had never reflected so much upon this before, even though I knew that it was sunnah, a tradition to do it. Now I do that with two intentions, for preventing the house and us from jinns but also for my health. During maghrib it is for the jinn's sake and after Aicha for my health's sake. 

      Hadiths about the night and closing doors and windows:

      Yes, a number of saheeh ahaadeeth (Prophetic narrations) were narrated concerning this etiquette. For example, it is narrated from Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

      “When the wings of the night spread – or when evening comes – keep your children in, for the devils come out at that time. Then when part of the night has passed, let them go. And close the doors and mention the name of Allaah, for the shaytaan (devil) does not open a closed door. And tie up your waterskins and mention the name of Allaah, and cover your vessels and mention the name of Allaah, even if you only put something over them, and extinguish your lamps.”

      Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3280) and Muslim (2012).

      Al-Nawawi included this in a chapter entitled Chapter on covering vessels, tying up waterskins, locking doors, mentioning the name of Allaah over them, extinguishing fires and lamps when going to sleep, and keeping children and livestock in after Maghrib.

      Muslim (2013) also narrated from Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not let your animals and children go out when the sun has set, until the first part of the night is over, for the devils come out when the sun sets, until the first part of the night is over.”

      The wings of the night? What is that?

      Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said concerning the first hadeeth:

      “The wings of the night” refers to when night comes after the sun has set.

      The words “then let them go” – Ibn al-Jawzi said: Rather there is fear for children at that hour, because the najaasah (impurity)that the shayaateen (devils) seek is usually present with them at that time, and the dhikr (remembrance of Allah) that would protect them is usually absent from children, and when the shayaateen spread out they hang on to whatever they can hang on to. Hence there is fear for children at that time.

      The reason why they spread out at that time is that they are more able to move about at night than during the day, because darkness is more conducive to devil forces coming together than any other time. End quote.

      Fath al-Baari, 6/341

      al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

      This hadeeth includes a number of types of goodness and etiquette which combine the interests of both this world and the Hereafter. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) enjoined these etiquettes which are the cause of safety from the harm of the shaytaan (devil) , and Allaah has made all of these means causes of being safe from his harm. He is not able to uncover vessels or untie waterskins or open doors or harm children or others if these means are followed. This is like what it says in the saheeh hadeeth, (authentic narration) that if a person says Bismillah when entering his house, the shaytaan (devil) says “No place to stay” i.e., we have no authority to stay overnight with these people. And if a man says when having intercourse with his wife, “O Allaah, keep the shaytaan away from us and keep the shaytaan away from what You bestow upon us (of offspring),” that will be a cause of the child being kept safe from the harm of the shaytaan. This is similar to this hadeeth, which is well known among saheeh ahaadeeth.

      This hadeeth encourages us to remember Allaah in these cases and other similar situations. Our companions said: It is mustahabb (preferred) to mention the name of Allaah over everything that matters, and to praise Allaah at the beginning of everything that matters, because of the well known hasan hadeeth (sound narrations).

      The words “wings of the night” is a well known phrase that refers to the darkness of the night. And it was said that it refers to when the darkness of night comes.

      The words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) “Keep your children in” mean: prevent them from going out at that time.

      The words “for the devils come out at that time” mean that there is the fear at this time that children may be subjected to the devils’ harm because there are so many of them at that time. And Allaah knows best. End quote.

      Sharh Muslim (13/185).

      The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked the following question:

      In the saheeh hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari, it says: “When the wings of the night spread, or when evening comes, keep your children in.” Then it says: “And extinguish your lamps.” Does this command mean that it is obligatory? If it is mustahabb, what is the evidence to show that it is not obligatory?

      They replied: The commands mentioned in this hadeeth are to be understood as recommendations and advice, according to most scholars, as was stated by a number of scholars, such as Ibn Muflih in al-Furoo’ (1/132), al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari (11/97). And Allaah knows best. End quote.

      Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (26/317)

      And Allaah knows best.

      Source: Islam Q&A

      A lifetime with islam- how is that?

      We all need some sort of traditions in our life. But what about Muslims? What traditions do they have? Are they all same?

      Muslims are not all the same. They have different culture, beliefs, and language. But they do have something in common - the traditions of the prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him.

      What traditions are they?

      They are numerous, yes indeed, they are abundant. They are overflowing.

      They celebrate twice a year, traditions like Christmas and Easter, but they are not the same as the feast of Ramadan or Hajj. They are better. Why better? On the outside it looks like Muslims are suffering, but if you really follow a good Muslim during the blessed months you will know that they are more happy than any person who tries to make the best Christmas ever, because the ingredients are different, even though it is called the same "a blessed Holiday".

      Here are some traditions to follow:

      Every day

      You wake up to morningprayer and you also say Subhanallah when you wake up, wash your body with water and brushes your teeth. You put on you clothes with the right hand and foot first. Then the left hand and foot. You go to work, and then you pray four more times every day, the same routine, day after day.

      When someone is sick, there is a tradition to visit that person. When you are sick yourself, you mustn't stop prayer but rather pray more. When you are sick you have several remedies to choose from.

      There is the sickness of the heart too that you can cure with Muslims traditions.

      Most of the traditions are for preventing sickness of the heart, mind, body and soul to occur at all.

      There is also a tradition to pray at night every day, the last portion of the night before sunrise and Fajr i.e. from midnight until Fajr.

      Every week

      Before you sleep there is a tradition to read Qur'an: Surat al-Mulk and Surat al-Sajjdah. Every week it is also a tradition to read Surat al-Kahf on Fridays, i.e. from Aicha on Thursday until Aicha on Fridays. On Fridays there is also a tradition to go to the mosque to pray, hear the lecture and remember but also to visit the others, hear news and join the community in the holy place of God.

      Every month

      Every month Muslims have the traditions to fast on Mondays and Thursdays. They also attend the mosque on Fridays. There is also a tradition to fast the 13,14 and 15th of every lunar month.

      Every year

      Every month has its own traditions. The last month of the lunar calender is right now - Hajj. It is the time when people travel to Saudi-Arabia, Mecka and Medina to do the once-in-a-life travel - the Pilgrimage. There are traditions what to do at the Pilgrimage like going around the Kaba, and pray on the mount Arafat.

      The month of RAmadan is very famous. The whole months is full of miracles and blessings and every Muslims fast, pray Taraweeh at the mosque.

      Every lifetime

      There is also traditions in how to welcome a newborn baby, how to do a wedding, how to prepare the dead before funeral and even what to do after he has deceased. There are many, many traditions to follow if one desires it.

      There is also a tradition to read, learn and execute what you have learnt and spread it to others. There is a tradition to give travelers to eat, even if you only have a date at home.

      There is many traditions and they are all called the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. 

      2012/10/27

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      Several stages of Iman.

      There is several stages of Iman. One of these are that of the prayer. Perhaps you already do the prayer at time, within the proper time. You have done that and that is good, but at the same time you don't do the prayer within the first time of the prayer. You delay it until the last part of it. So the next stage of your iman has to be to pray within the proper time and also within the first period of the proper time. This is more difficult than you think.

      You are very knowledgable about islam and you know what to do, but you don't do it. You feel that Allah will accept your repentance because in your heart you are close to Allah. But the fact is that you are far away from Allah. Most people are far away from Taqwa. They continue to eat what they use to eat, sleep late at night even though it is sunnah to sleep early. They sleep not only during the morning and sometimes miss the morningprayer, but they never pray Qiyamah, the night prayer, even though they might stay up all night.

      Most people don't read the Qur'an during the night. They are very few. And those who to that and persist upon it, they are rare. So if you are amongst those, inchallah you will have your prayer accepted.

      The next part of the faith must be that you just not only pray at time and within the first time, you also add to it the sunnah, i.e. rakat before and after the fard-prayer i.e. the obligatory prayers. That is not only hard to do, but sometimes with a lot of things around you, you don't have the time, nor do you love to do that.

      Ponder this. Even though you know what to do and how to do it, whether it is start exercising, eat properly, get the car you want, the promotion you long for or the family you dream of, you don't always discipline yourself to do what it requires of you. It needs a lot of hard work. It needs support and motivation. Most the time when you start something new you stop quickly. You persist perhaps one day or a quarter of a day, then you are tired, or fatigued and then you stop doing it and don't try until much later again.

      When somebody starts something new they need a tutor or someone who can help them get through the first period of time. It takes about 40 days before you change your behaviour. That is why you can't do it alone, not at the beginning. You have to have somebody who you can talk to, somebody who intervene between you and your own self. This somebody must understand the importance of the intervention, even though he or she don't do what you want to do. But it is much easier if you find somebody who actually does what you want to do. They will remind you and help you on the way to success. Because do the prayer is success. And who doesn't want success?

      How to change somebody's mind and thoughts!

      How does Politics work? 

      Ponder this!

      My brother-in-law wanted to marry a girl that the family was against. Everybody was against the proposition of my brother-in-law, even I and my husband.
      When my brother-in-law told his family about his proposition, they all responded negatively and they closed the door. Everybody - except me. Why?
      Why didn't I close the door right away like the other did? It is so easy to do that. To order somebody a change. I didn't do that because I know the secret to get to people's heart and mind.

      If you want to change the mind of someone, you just can't close the door. It will help nobody. Yes, you will perhaps prevent the happening to be, by closing the door, but you will on the other hand have an enemy and an enemy will not listen to you. He will hate you.

      So what do you have to do to change the mind somebody? 

      You have to be "sneaky" in a good way. You have to know how to play your cards well, how a played card will affect the other person. That is the way I used to make my brother-in-law change his mind about this girl. I left the door open. I told him I was by his side and that I would be on his side together with my husband if he wanted to make a war against his family and if he wanted to fight for this girl. I told him that he had the right to marry this girl, even if it is not recommended, as he will be in need of tied kinship after the marriage and other things. It is true. It is not easy to marry somebody you love without the support of the family, especially if you don't have a house, nor a job. It is with other words impossible. But to say that directly will not change his mind. You have to say a lot of other things first. 

      So, what was my strategy? 

      I said to him that he could go through his actions and his intentions and I told him what to do practically  i.e.  he has to have a job and an apartment. He also needs to feel that the girl he is in love with will accept this arrangement. He said that she was. But here is the trick. I knew that when I said that, he would respond to it with pleasure. He would accept this proposition. What he didn't knew was that I knew that he couldn't go through it. I already knew the impossibility of his thoughts. But I wanted him to FEEL it and really live it out, as it would actually happen. This way, he would start acting differently. He will now be open to all of your advice and proposition, because he feels that you are with him, not against him. And that is the secret to every advice given to any person. It has to be in align with what he wants.

      Listen, give a couple of advice and then be patient. Let the words, the sublime message, work for itself. 

      When you once have laid your cards, you have to be patient. Why? Because your words will be repeated in the head, until the words you spoke will be HIS words. You don't have to do anyting, except being patient. He will believe that it is HE that has thought the thoughts  not that somebody told him what to do. Over and over again, the message is repeated in his head. During this period of patience he will try to argument against the message, but he will fail at the end.

      I don't do anything, except waiting. It is like a radio in is head with commercial repeating all the time. The more he thinks of her, the more the advice I said to him will pop up in his head and I don't have to do anything, except to be patient. 

      Of course the advice will not endure for a long time and your goal will not be gained right away. It will take weeks. It also needs some listening and new advice after every time you have listened. You can't tell him not to marry this girl the first time. It has to be a lot later on, after smoothly oiling his mind with small words.

      The family didn't reach his mind because they acted like dictators when they gave advice.

      In this case the whole family tried to "yell" at him day and night, telling him that he was wrong, that he did the wrong choice. But he didn't listen to them, nor to the advice they gave him. He didn't respond to that at all. He didn't accept the words because they had already closed the door to HIS choice. They couldn't reach him with anger. He felt that they didn't love him, even though that was not the truth. They loved him very much. But you can't change the mind of somebody with orders and closed doors. It must be with an open door and love for HIS choice, not hate towards his choice. Love for ideas that the people have can change the world, hate towards the opinions can never truly change it. And I am only talking about the mind of the society, not the physical appearance, that could be changed even if you don't change to mind. 

      For three months my brother-in-law persisted the talk and the advice of the family, until I came to talk to him. Within a couple of days his mind began to change. For every time we spoke, or rather for every time he spoke, and I listened, I heard my words coming out of his mouth.

      I hadn't and didn't say: "I told you so". Never. I let him believe it was his words all the time. Sometimes it seemed like he listened well, and sometimes it seemed like he hadn't listened. But be sure, the radio with the message is always in his head, repeating itself while he is fighting the message in his head, not with a physical person. He didn't have to fight the family any more. He only had to convince himself, but he couldn't, because the message is like RNA and DNA. It only repeat itself.

      That is why he was so tired all the time, and sad, because he fought the message withing himself and the message overruled his own mind. 

      I was sure about the effect of this method, and it worked. 

      Sometimes we are inpatient about the effect of our words. But words will affect people, if they are together with love and respect for the choice somebody makes. It took me six weeks to change his mind, and I only had to listen well and say a couple of words at the end, leaving him with the message ringing in his head. We spoke about the girl once a week, all included six times. 

      This is how Politicians work too. They show love for the people, they listen to them, they say a couple of words that is in align with what the people what to hear, and then they add a couple of words to get them to the goal they, the Politicians, have in mind. They plant the message in your head and then it will be repeated over and over again, until you believe it is true. Until you think it is your thoughts and your opinion. 


      2012/10/25

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      2012/10/16

      Tafseer of Qur'an and Surah Ya Seen

      Tafseer - the depth of Qur'an and of the Science and mystery of it

      Sometimes you read the Qur'an without reflecting upon the words. Every word is important in the noble Qur''an. When I read the famous Surah Ya'Seen I am struck by the amazing treasure that lies in it. But have I really the whole context? What more, other than the obvious, lies behind the beautiful pattern of words? I found Scribd.com really intrigue your mind and heart because it talks about the Qur'an in detail, or as they say in arabic tafseer. It is the depth of Qur'an and the science and mystery of it. And it is amazing and fascinating.

      What does the "Word" mean really in the seventh verse of Surah Ya Seen? 

      If you go study Tafseer, you will perhaps understand this:

      “The decree has been passed against most of them, so they will not believe.” This verse consoles Rasulullah
      (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), telling him not to grieve about those who do not believe in him because Allah had already decreed that they will never believe. Ibn Jarir said: “The punishment has become inevitable for most of them, because Allah had decreed it in the Mother of the Book (Al-Lawh Al-Mahfuz) that they will not believe.”A very hard work is handed over to you (O My Beloved Messenger) that you should warn and awake, by means of the Qur'an, that nation (Arabs) to whom for centuries no warner was sent. That ignorant and heedless nation which is neither aware of Allah nor the Hereafter; neither gaining lesson from the past nor anxious for the future; neither observant of their origin nor looking at the end; neither differing between virtue and vice nor conscious of good and bad - to bring forth such a nation from the shadows of such a long ignorance and heedlessness into the light of righteousness and guidance is not an ordinary and easy job. No doubt!

      You shall try with full force and zeal to bring them up to the high degrees of prosperity and welfare by warning them of the horrible results of this ignorance and heedlessness; and by giving them the alarm of a hideous future, so that this nation by its high success may open the door of success for the whole world. But you will come across many men who will not pay heed to any kind of advice and admonition. This is why Satan subdues them and prevails upon them and enticing them to do mischief and absurdities. Satan adorns with delusion their past and future, which may be extremely dirty. Thus at last,totally disbelieving the next life, these people make only their transient and temporary wishes their destined goal.At that time, as explained by Allah, on the one hand the word of the Satan comes true:

      (Satan) said: 'By Your Might, I will surely mislead all of them except Your faithful obedient servants. (Surah Saad : 82-83),and on the other hand theword of Allah is proved and applied:

      He (Allah) said: ‘The truth is – and the truth I say – that I will fill Hell with you and your followers together.’ (Surah Saad : 84-85)

      Nevertheless, it is already proved from eternity that such and such individuals from such and such nations, being misled by the Satan due to their carelessness and indiscretion, shall be entitled to the divine chastisement. Such people cannot be expected to come to the way and accept the truth. So if you (O Prophet) come to face such discouraging events in the mission of warning and reforming, you should not be sorrowful and grieved. You go on performing your duty and leave the result to Allah. To fully understand the above comment, the following verses should also be looked at and reflected upon:


      What else can you figure out when you study the Qur'an?

      And whosoever turns away blindly from the remembrance of the Most Merciful (Allah), We appoint for him Satan to be his companion. And verily, they (the Satans) hinder them from the Path of Allah; but they think that they are guided aright. (Surah Az-Zukhruf : 36,37).

      This verse shows that Satan is not set upon anyone in the beginning but when one blinds himself of the admonition obstinately, the final effect is that Satan is set upon him, just as the organs of the body - hands and feet - become inactive if they are not used for a pretty long time. Allah, the Most High, says.

      So when they turned away (from the Path of Allah), Allah turned their hearts away (from the Right Path).(Surah As-Saff : 5).

      And We shall turn their hearts and their eyes away (from guidance); as they refused to believe therein for the first time, and We shall leave them in their trespass to wander blindly. (Surah Al-An'aam : 110)

      And We have assigned for them (devils) intimate companions (in this world), who have been made fair-seeming to them, what was before them (i.e. evil deeds done in this world) and what was behind them (denial of matters of the coming life of the Hereafter). And the Word (i.e. of torment) is justified against them as it was justified against the previous generations … (Surah Fussilat : 25) 

      After his control, Satan takes them to that which results in i.e. justification of the punishment.

      And more...