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If you have problems or feel negative emotions - you have to do shadow work or "How to purify your heart as a Muslim"

How to change your Life: Purify your heart!
For a long time, I knew that I had to purify my heart, but in islam you are only told to purify your heart and your mind, not how you can Clean up the mess that is actually there.

To purify the heart is the most important thing you can do to transform your Life. The prophet Muhammad did so - the angel purified his heart.

But you can purify it without an angel.

You only have to have a Connection to God/Conscious - which we all have.

It doesn't matter how many times you do dhikr. It doesn't matter how many prayers you do - i will not change your thoughts.

The prayer is good for you in other ways and it can help purify people in many ways, but the prayer isn't Everything.

You have to do Shadow work.

So how do you do this?

By start to feel. Not to resist the feeling. Not living it out (even if this would be better for you). You have to be in the moment, and in the present.

Here is how you purify your heart:

The feeling you are feeling right now have a bodily sensation.

You must start to observe it, feel it and then ask your heart when it was the first time you felt like this. It will lead you to a memory.

This memory you must observe and when you have observed it, you must start to feel it. When you are there in this memory living it all out again, you can now change it. You change the feeling by changing the situation.

Ask the Little girl what she needs and she will answer you by a thought/idea. Change the situation/the memory so that the implications aren't the same i.e. if somebody hated you, you could take this and make somebody else come to you in this memory and love you. Use your imagination. Because even if our body can't change Place in time/space the soul/ruh can... and it will change the causality of Everything in your Life and you will change your Life. This is what I mean by purifying your heart so that it no longer holds negative emotions, like an anchor. If you would like to know more about this, you can Contact me.


The hardness of the heart

How can we make the heart softer? It is essential to me, as I am a Muslim to always soften my heart, as much as possible. As I am a woman it is easy to cry, and my tears are good because they are the sign that my heart is alive. 

The servant is not afflicted with a punishment greater in severity than the hardening of the heart and its being distant from Allaah. The Fire was created to melt the hardened heart, this heart which is the most distant of hearts from Allaah. If the heart becomes hardened the eye becomes dry [and finds no joy or tranquillity].
There are four matters, when the limits are transgressed with regards to them, which harden the heart: food, sleep, speech and sexual intercourse. A body afflicted by disease does not derive nourishment from food and water and similarly a diseased heart does not benefit from admonishment or exhortation.
Whosoever desires to purify his heart then let him give preference to Allaah over his base desires.
The heart that clings to its base desires is veiled from Allaah in accordance to the strength of its attachment to them. The hearts are the vessels of Allaah upon His earth, hence the most beloved of them to Him are those that are most tender, pure and resistant to deviation.
[A reference to the hadeethTruly, Allaah has vessels from amongst the people of the earth, and the vessels of your Lord are the hearts of his righteous slaves, and the most beloved of them to Him are the softest and most tender ones” and it is hasan. Refer to as-Saheehah (no. 1691)]
The transgressors preoccupied their hearts with the pursuit of this world. If only they had preoccupied them with Allaah and seeking the Hereafter then they would have instead reflected upon the meaning of His Words and His Signs that are witnessed in creation. Their hearts would have returned to their owners (in whose chests they reside) bestowing upon them marvellous wisdom and pearls of benefit.
When the heart is nourished with dhikr, its thirst quenched with contemplation and cleansed from corruption, it shall witness remarkable and wondrous matters and be inspired with wisdom.
Not every individual who is endowed with knowledge and wisdom and dons its robe is from among its people. Rather the People of Knowledge and Wisdom are those who have infused life into their hearts by slaughtering their desires. As for the one who has destroyed his heart and given precedence to his desires then knowledge and wisdom are deprived from his tongue.
The destruction of the heart occurs through possessing a sense of security and negligence. The heart is fortified through fear of Allaah and dhikr. If the heart renounces the pleasures of this world then it will be directed towards pursuing the bliss of the Hereafter and it will be amongst those who call to it. Should the heart become content with the pleasures of this world the bliss of the Hereafter ceases to be pursued.
Yearning for Allaah and meeting Him is like a gentle breeze blowing upon the heart, blowing away the blazing desire for this world. Whosoever causes his heart to settle with his Lord shall find himself in a calm and tranquil condition and whosoever sends it amongst the people shall be disturbed and excessively perturbed. This is because the love of Allaah can never enter the heart which contains love of this world until the camel passes through they eye of a needle.
Therefore the most beloved servant to Allaah is the one who He places in His servitude, who He selects for His Love, who He causes to purify his worship for Him, who dedicates his life to Him, his tongue to His dhikr and his limbs to His service.
The heart becomes sick as the body becomes sick and its cure lies in repentance and seeking protection from evil.
It becomes rusty as a mirror becomes rusty and it is polished through dhikr.
It becomes naked as the body becomes naked and its adornment comes about through taqwaa.
It becomes hungry and thirsty as the body becomes hungry and thirsty and its hunger and thirst is satiated through knowledge, love, reliance, repentance and servitude to Allaah.

l-Fawaa’id [pp. 111-112] of Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah, may Allaah have mercy upon him.

[The translation is taken from ‘An Explanation of Riyaadh as-Saaliheen’ Vol. 1, Trans. Abu Sulaymaan and modified.]

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Does the dead person know about the visit of the livings and their salutations?

Nobody have ever talked about death as the Muslims do. The Christians don't and the Jews don't. When somebody talks about death in the Western society, they only talk about how to bury the dead person. That is it. Then they talk about the grief about the person who lost somebody. That is it. But, in islam, we have many hadiths about the death and what happens after death. When I first read about it and heard about it, I was amazed, terrified and astonished. How could Muslims know? And i detail? 

When you visit a grave, you sometimes talk with the dead. But does the dead person hear you? The people of the believers know about us and hear us on Fridays. They want us to come to them every Friday. They like our visits.  

The son of Abdel-Barr said: It was confirmed from the Holy Prophet peace be upon him who had said: No Muslim who passes by the grave of his brother, knowing him in the world, and he salutes him, but Allah Ta'ala (The exalted) returns on him his soul, until (the dead) returns the salutation, i.e. the dead person knows him in specific, and he will return the salutation. 

...And in the two Sahihs (Sahih Muslim and Sahih al-Bukhari), from him (peace be upon him) from many phases: "That he had ordered with the slain during Badr to be thrown in Qulaib (well). Then he came until he stood over them and he called them by their names: O' Such, the son of Such, and O'Such, the son of Such, did you find what your Lord had promised you?" Thereupon Umar said to him: O' Messenger of Allah, do you talk to dead people? He, peace be upon him, said then: By whom had sent me with the righ, you do not hear me with what I say more than them. But they ar not able to answer."

And it was cinfirmed from him (The messenger, may the blessing and peace of Allah be upon him) that the dead hears the tapping of the scuffs of the escorts, if they go away from him. 

"Uthman bin Sawda at-Tafawi had narrated, he said: His mother was among the worshippers. She was called a nun. He said: When she was at the brick of death, she raised her head to the sky, and said: O, my Supplier, and on whom I depend i my life, and after my death, do not dismay me at the death time, and do not make me alone in my grave. He said. then she died. I used to come to her every Friday, invoking Allah and asking forgiveness for her and to the people of the graves. I saw her one day in my dream. I said to her: O' mother, how are you? She said: O, son, that for death a vehement anguish, and I am by the prais of allah in an extoled partition, stretching out the musks, and lying in it on the sacrenet and the silk brocades til the Day of Resurrection. I said to her then. Do you want anything? She said: yes. I said: And what this can be? She said: do not abandon what you used to do, of visiting and invoking for us, and I feel happy with your coming on Friday, when you come from amongst your family. It would be said for me: O, nun, this is your son, he has com. I would be happy and all those around me of the dead will be happy."

Does the dead know what we, the living persons, do?

Abdullah ben al-Mubarak said: Thawr ben Yazid had narrated from Abu Aiyub. He said: 
'The deeds of the living are exhibited on the dead, if they see good they are happy and anounce the glad tidings and if they see evil they say: Our Lord, see in it'. 
And the son of Abu ad-Dunia had mentioned from Ahmad ben Abu al-Hawari. he said: 'Muhammad my brother had narrated, he said': 
'Abbad ben Abbad had come upon Ibrahim be Saleh. He was in Palestine. He said': 'Preach me'. 'He said: 'With what I preach you, may Allah lead you to the right way?' 'It reached me that the deeds of the living are exhibited on their dead relatives, then wait for what is exhibited on the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him of your deeds.' 
Then Ibrahim cried until his beard became wet. 

From the book "The soul - Kitab ar-ruh" Compiled by Imam Shamseddin abi Abdullah from Ibn Kaiyim al-Jawziya 1292 - 1356 A.C. (691-751). Rendered to English by F. Amira Zrejn Matraji. Corrected and revised by Mahmoud Matraji. Dar el Fikr, Beirut.  

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