Crying (Thawbah) is good for your health and for purifying your body and mind (which will purify your belief i e the way you think, i.e your religion and thus the way you act)
In islam, we are crying a lot. Not only 7 times a year, as a German scientologist has told us (German Society of Ophthalmology) Men cry on average between 6-17 times per year while women cry between 30-64 times a year. In islam it is recommended to cry a lot, every night if possible while doing tawbah, repentance for the bad things you did and could remember and not remember.
Women tend to cry for about six minute and men for between two and four minutes, but this is not a reserach done of Muslim men of course. Until adolescence, no difference between the sexes was found.
Crying studies in laboratories have shown several physical effects of crying, such as increased heart rate, sweating, and slowed breathing.
Increased heart rate is good, because it helps the body to flush the blood around and up to the head and brain, thus making us thinking more clearly.
Sweating and moving that lymph is a great purification reaction. Sweating is the main purification action to get rid of toxins and thus purifyting our bodies, which islam recommed us to do. Crying is good.
Slowed breathing is great as it will decrease the stress, which is the main factor for health problems. Stress make your body alert and in a state of fight-and-flight-mood, so to slow down to breathing is essential for your health. It will help you if you have stomach issues like IBS, kidney problems etc. So if you cry a lot, it is good for you. Don't be afraid to go from happy, angry and stressed out to crying because it will help you feel happy again, inchallah.
Crying is helpful and beneficial.
Allah has however told us not to be sad, i.e. be in a state of sadness, without crying, so this is important to remembder. Sadness and depression is not of islam, but crying is.
When you think about all things you have to do, or implications that are going to happen, eventually, or perhaps not at all, your body will in both cases start to pump out adrenalin, as if it already is happening right now.
A response to stress is that the sympathetic nervous system triggers several processes to allow us to fight or flee. Even if we are sitting at a spa, thinking about all things you have to do later, you will be in a state of stress. This includes shutting down unnecessary body functions, such as digestion, and increasing blood flow and oxygen to necessary muscles.
Is this good?
When you feel a lump in the throat, known as a globus sensation, is because the body is experiencing two things at the same time. Is feels stress, but at the same time it also opening the throat in order to increase air flow. This is done by expanding the glottis, which allows more air to pass through.
As you are undergoing this sympathetic response, eventually the parasympathetic nervous systym attempts to undo the response by decreasing high stress activites and increasing recuperative processes, which includes running digestion.
This involves swallowing, a process which requires closing the fully expanded glottis to prevent food from entering the larynx. The glotting, however, attempts to remain open as you cries. This fight to close the glottis creates a sensation that feels like a lump in your throat.
Not eating is good, fasting is good
If you don't eat, and then you cry your body will increase your blood flow, which will have a great effect on your mind, muscles and body. It will move your lymph and get rid of the toxins in your body. It will increase your air flow and it will calm your whole body down, thus helping your stomach to degenerate.
Sunnah to be thin and sunnah to say as-salam aleikum,
It is sunnah to be thin. And when you think calm thoughts, your body will be calm. When you think that you are safe, your body will start to degenerate, and stress will go away and you start to restore everything you have damaged in your body.
I use to say As-salam (one of the names of Allah), while thinking that my cells are in this state. It calms me down. I sign that my body is calm is that I breath deeper. When I say As-salam aleikum, both you and me will be in a state of calm and this is good.
Your mind is so much important, much more than you think. And allah has told us exactly what you can do to be in the best of states.
When you cry of tawbah which is an outcome of the thoughts you have been thinking and thus the act that you have been made.
Our prophet, who said the truth to us and wanted us to experience the best way of living, cried due to the fondness and love for a deceased person, or for fear of, on behalf of the ummah, or because of the fear or longing for Allah Ta'aala. Only these types of crying are good, really good, they are even praiseworthy.
One type of crying is called a lie, i.e. the crying of a person that thinks in a certain way that is far away of the truth, and didn't understand that he is far away from the truth, so he keeps doing the same thing, believing and thinking that what he does is his right and it is good for him or for other people (which is also called hypocrisy).
David, the prophet David, over him peace, also cried. His cry was due to sorrow. Ibrahim, the prophet Ibrahim, who also told the truth, over him peace, was due to a desire, and the crying of Muhammad, the prophet Muhammad, the truth-teller, was because of love.
When he cried at night, it was due to love. Otherwise he cried due to different reasons as has been mentioned.
Read more about the hadiths where this has been mentioned, here.
(306) Hadith Number 2.
'Abdullah bin Mas'ud Radiyallahu 'Anhu says: ''Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam once asked me to recite the Qur-aan to him. (The hearing of the recital of the Qur-aan is regarded as a sunnah, as a result of this deed of Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam)
I said: ''O Messenger of Allah, should I recite it to you when it has been revealed to you?'
Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam said: 'I love to hear it from another person''
Thereupon I began reciting Surah Nisaa. When I reached the aayah ''But how (will it be with them) when We bring of every people a witness, and We bring thee (O Muhammed) a witness against these?'' (Surah Nisaa,41) I saw tears flowing from both eyes of Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam"
So, if something makes you cry, cry. If it is out of fear, cry, love, cry, thawbah, cry. This will help you purify yourself, and give you health, strength and a clear mind back. Inchallah.
The Muslim Ummah needs to be purified, and war is one way. Don't be afraid of war. Don't be afraid of loss. We will all be lost to somebody and when it is going to happen, remember that Allah has made our graveyard a peace of rest for everyone that has cried a lot at night, while praying. So cry, cry, cry. The more you cry, the better.