2012/09/18

7 ways to upgrade your life

Upgrade your life 

When you talk about technology you always look for the last versions to upgrade into. Why not upgrade your life too. Isn’t it worth it if you are going to have a much better world?

1. Stop whining all the time. It is of no use whining. If you want to talk about your problems, please analyze it first, then talk to somebody you think you will accept an advice from.

2. Your family means very much to you, but stop concentrate on what they say about you and start acting within your own ideals. They will change when you change.

3. You deserve much better. Don’t let anyone who doesn’t like how you live influence you. Find friends and start interact with them. Tell them what you want and they will support you.

4. Don’t divorce. Most of the time it is only little things and egoism. Try harder.

5. It takes courage to be what you want to be. If you want to be a Muslim, then don’t let anybody else put you down. You are worth so much more.

6. Tell people what you are thankful for and they will give you more of that. People love to help thankful people.

7. Don’t be afraid of people. They can’t do you any harm, as long as you don’t do anything badly.

Remember to have patience. Be strong and keep your values intact - but do not forget to be open within reason. 

When it comes to after life and death, Muslims are the most knowledgeable

Most religions talk about death and what comes after death, but no religion has the answer except Islam.

In Islam you can find detailed descriptions on how the dead person is met by angels, how they look, how the dead person is raised up to the first heaven, what happens there and then what happens in the grave. Islam also talk about Judgment Day, the Resurrection, the Bridge over the Hell fire and Paradise. It is very descriptive, even though it is nothing like what we have here on earth. This was one thing that made me interesting in Islam. Christianity can never be compared to what Islam has to say about death and after-life. Islam is pre-eminently. 

Prophet Muhammad peace be upon Him

I know a man who lost his parents but refused to be called an orphan. He was born during the age when female infanticide and murder was rampant, when people took created things as Gods, anything they feared or found strange become a God for them, gambling, alcohol, slavery and many more evils were rampant. He was man enough to love a strong woman years older than him, worked for her and made her stronger, opened his heart to her, shared his fears to no one but her. He was romantic and was faithful to her till her last breath. Cleaned after himself and sewed his own clothes. He was good looking, courageous and fearless. He never judged anyone on their pasts or looks, and was moderate, open minded and tolerant. His neighbor was Jewish and his cousin-in- lawwas a Christian priest. Beaten and exiled when he was helpless, he was merciful when he became stronger. Intelligent, wise and a hard worker, he built a long lasting nation out of nothing in the last 20 years of his life. People who stoned him once, or intended to Murder him, turned to be the most faithful and loving. He was the final messenger sent by GOD with the last revelation(The Holy Quran) and his life as a Guidance for all ages. He had no parents, but loved his daughters and grandchildren. His last will was "Be good to women". This man was a mercy for all mankind, this is my

P R O P H E T 
M U H A M M E D 

Peace be Upon Him.

It is a challenge doing nothing at all.

When you watch a movie, listen to music or dance, you easily forget about your life or sufferance. 

You feel so good, because you can't remember where you are, what you do or what you are supposed to do. When watching a couple die and leave their daughter in a movie, nobody talks about what happens afterwards. They should, because that would remind you of why you are here on earth, and make your brain functioning again. But today movies make us forget about why we live. But if you turn on the television again, and tune in to Saudi - Qur'an, you will find people doing tawaf around Kaba. You will hear the Qur'an and perhaps read the translation in English.

The feelings that you had before, that were joyful and happy, now turns down slowly and you will start functioning your brain and heart again. Before you did that, it was like your brain was dead while you was watching the movie. Now you will feel peace in your home again. If you are sensible and have a pure heart, you will perhaps cry. Maybe you will start to think about life again and why we are here but also contemplate on what we are going to do after we die? And if we still are interested in music, dancing and movies when we lie in our graves?

Is it meaningful to spend hours after hours filling our time with meaningless pieces of action? 

Sometimes you really feel that if you are going to survive (because life is boring and nothing ever happens to you) you must watch a movie or listen to music. You tune in the radio on your favorite channel to forget about the hardship and the trials of life (one of those is having patience even though you are having a boring life. Sometimes boring is good).

It is really difficult to do nothing.

If you don't watch television, nor listen to music, perhaps you enjoy surfing on the Internet or reading magazines or a book. Those things are also distractions and a way to escape and being alone, with nothing on your mind or in your hands.

BUT,

If you dare to be alone for a while and even days, weeks and months, you will start reflecting on other things you are not used to reflect upon. You will also start feeling, smelling and hearing things in a different way, with more senses again. It is like a smoker who quits smoking. First the smoker doesn't feel a difference, but in a couple of hours they will start noticing the changes. They will start feeling, smelling and tasting things again with a new perspective. Or if you fast, it is the same. You become more sensible. So, if you clean yourself from pictures from movies, music and other distractions, you will certainly, too, start noticing things in your life that changes. If you have the possibility to go away and be alone for a while, you will certainly be more peaceful. If you don’t feel peaceful perhaps you are having a big struggle not distracting yourself again which takes your energy.

It doesn't have to be a movie, books or music. 

It could be food, exercise, social life, travels, sex or anything else that take away the attention of being alone, doing nothing. Even cleaning your house is a sort of distraction. The most distracting thing is the thoughts you have in your head. It is like somebody whispers to you every second of your time, or music that is repeated in your head, or a speech you must say, or things you must do that whirls around over and over again in your head. Those thoughts are also distractions. It is really difficult to think about nothing. Even counting is something or seeing colors or having a mantra. Don’t have a mantra. Just be.

A Muslim also has a lot of things in his or her head. 

But five times a day or more, they are switched out with verses from the Qur'an. The Qur'an is a reminder and guidance for me, for us, the Muslims. The Qur'an reminds me why I am born, why I live here on this earth and why I am going to die. It tells me what happens after death and what comes after it. It also teach me how to behave in every aspect in life, what is right and wrong and what is good and what is not.

When a person listens to the Qur'an he has to think more slowly than usual i.e. he must not speed up his or her thoughts, but rather feel the Qur’an.

Today everybody is hyperactive and activated 24/7 and that is not good for our souls and hearts. We must take is more slowly than we do. Doing all things in life is not what life is about. Life is about praying and to submit to God and listen to His words. We must respond to His mercy. We must stop doing things all the time. It is really hard, but we have to, if we don't want to end up like most people. We are all children at the beginning and most of us will die old. We have a whole lifetime to do just “nothing”. We will all die, so why not cogitate on that for a period of time.

The most difficult thing to do is to do nothing. 

It is much easier climbing a mountain, baking biscuits, cleaning your house, start a business or fall in love over and over again with superstars or your neighbor. Start right now and close every sound from your surroundings that you have around you, including your own thoughts. Don't do anything at all.

After some peace and rest, you will perhaps feel overwhelmed by the silence and want to stand up and do things. This is because silence could either makes you sleepy which make you want to fall asleep.

The silence could also recharge you, which will make you activated. But don't follow your instinct. Just be. After a while, for example 40 minutes, listen to the Qur'an and its message. The more you do this, the better you will become and feel and the more recharged you will be, with God’s help.

My personality as a Swedish Muslim convert

I am a realist and believe in what I can see and touch, but not only.

I am loyal and supportive to my family, community, society, even though I want to follow my passion.
I don't talk a lot about my inner thoughts and feelings when I am with people who talk a lot about them selves.
Sometimes I have an explosive temper, I react physically, especially when I feel frustrated and without support.
I have a strong physical constitution but a slow body movements. When I was a kid my mother used to say that I ran like a bear.
I don't love to watch sports, like football, boxing, soccer, but I can enjoy watching sports once in a while when Sweden or Tunisia is in the Finally of something like handball or soccer.
As I am Swedish I am very practical and sometimes stubborn and hard-headed. 
I need to achieve immediate, tangible and concrete results. That makes me feel better. So when I am writing something I usually follow the statistics directly to see what happens. It excites me very much.
Stamina, strength and team work are my strong points. I am an individualist too, but I feel much better working with people who work together with me. 

I can't live a fast, desireful, stimulating life more than one or maximum two days. After that I need some rest and peace. 

I am competitive, but I don't feel successful even though I feel that I need to achieve results and have feedback.
I tend to be honest, blunt, straightforward and very direct, but not always. I take in what I hear, analyses and then take the decision if I am going to be honest 100 percent. Sometimes it is not worth it, depending on the other person's character and relation to me.
I am powerful, self-confident, independent and practical or at least that is what I desire to be and feel.
I don't have a very eccentric, individual and unique behavior.
I am not impulsive, stimulating and explosive in my interactions. I always consider what I hear, see and feel before I do anything.
I don't always feel a need for freedom and independence in my relationships. Sometimes it is enough with a little bit. 
I am a winner and leader. I can achieve whatever I want, but I consider how my actions will lead to social consequences that I can't bear, so I give up on my self for my family. 
When I am with my family or husband, sometimes I need to be the center of attention.

I am not totally into shaping and forming physical reality, even though I love to write and draw and I am creative. 

I don't enjoy all the pleasures and adventures life has to offer. I feel it is a waste of time and money.
I always imagine and plan strategies for my next project.
I think and plan very precisely, detailed, step-by-step and I love it.
Letting go, passivity and relaxation are my priorities, because I think about others before myself most of the time.
I appear to be powerful, strong, forceful and sometimes pushy.
I need to be in control of my life, my relationships, my career. If I am not, I am depressed, and I have been so I know what I am talking about.
I am always interested what other people think or feel about me. It is important for me to be loved by people, which I am not always.
My freedom and independence are not the most important things to me.
I am interested in projects, business, sales or marketing, even though I can't do anything right now about it. I have studied buisness economics for two years and have thousands of ideas that I want to realize.
I talk mainly about my projects and challenges, which drive my husband crazy, because he is a man and can't handle everything he hears from me, so I shut up sometimes.
I love to create, shape and form ideas and concepts.

I am a very logical, analytical, rational and sequential thinker. That can make people crazy, because they don't think so much as I do.
I prefer to see the proof, logic and data behind reality, even though I am open to ideas that are not with proof, or data behind it.
I need order, stability, structure and security, so that I can concentrate on being creative.
I love to study, learn or discuss my ideas and concepts, but I feel that I only can write about it, not talk about it. People are not interested, or don't have time and I feel sometimes that I take their time, and I don't want that.
I like to have regular routines in my day-to-day life, so that I can think freely and creatively.
I talk very slowly and detailed. I think first, then I talk, most of the time. Sometimes I speak fastly though.
A safe home and a stable family are important to me, so that is why I give up some of my dreams.
I prefer solid, long-lasting and committed relationships.
I enjoy working with mechanical or electronic gadgets and I am good at it, even though it is a "guy's work".
I prefer a secure, stable work with regular income, even though I don't live like that at all. My husband takes care of that so that I can be free and creative.
I am honest, reliable and trustworthy. People count on me, even though I don't always count on myself.

I need to have fun, play, exercise or be around people, but I have difficulty to take the first step and get up from my writing in the couch.

I am happy, sunny, joyful, easy-going and enjoy life, especially if I have fun, play, exercise or am around people that make me laugh.
I need body movement, exercise, dancing on a regular basis, but I don't do it. There are some hinders for me to get there.
My body is very sensitive and acts like a biological antenna.
I can be very spontaneous, overflowing with creative ideas, which annoyes people sometimes.
I am a very bright, intelligent and radiant individual.
I love to travel, relax on a beach or dance all night long and sometimes I do that, but not as much as I would like to.
I look younger then my real age, some people think. Some people think I look older than my age, because I wear hidjab, like an old may.
I don't want responsibilities or commitments, but I have responsibilities and commitments, like my religion, my children and my marriage, so I have to be firm on that.
I like to be artistic, creative or work with my hands, especially if it lead to business activities. My dream is to be a writer, teacher and business woman.
I am good in starting new projects, but bad in finishing them, because there is always a lack of something like support, time or money.
I am always late for my meetings or very early. But I am better now than I was before to get in time.

I am very social, communicative and natural when getting out of the house and talking my mother tongue. 

When I speak a foreign language I tend not to be very social, communicative or natural. 
Nature and people are very important to me and how they feel. I am concerned about their state of body and mind.
I love animals especially dogs, horses and cats, but I don't touch dogs as I am a Muslim, even though I pet horses and cats. I have had cats when I was a child so I like cats, but not as much as my cat-loving sister.
I like to teach, communicate or give other people advice and people come to me to talk or having advice.
I can talk for hours about many different subjects if somebody would be interested in me.
I need peace, harmony and balance in my life and I strive daily to have that.
I love to be with my close friends, relatives and family, but not for so much time as they want to be with me.
I am open, quick-minded and communicative. I listen to anything, don't judge and have a good answer to most things.
Relationships and friends are most important in my life. That is why I don't follow my dreams.
Intimacy means love, affection and sharing.
Others consider me as a good teacher, therapist and counselor and love to talk to me.
I need to share and express my inner feelings, but I do that mostly by writing. Sometimes I talk to my husband and rarely with my family or friends.

I love to learn and to be intellectually stimulated all the time. Sometimes that drives me crazy. I want to DO the things too, that I am hearing or reading about.

I am quick-minded but I don't have a precise and accurate memory.
I am ambitious, competitive, goal-oriented and expect the best, but I put that aside as long as the children are still small.
I have a strong personality, perseverance and self-esteem, or at least that is what I want to have.
Wealth, luxury and money represent social status and power. Sadly enough, because I lack of everything.
I articulate and communicate very quickly, clearly and directly. I am better than my teacher is now, i.e. my husband.
I am conservative in my beliefs and behavior, but also open to new ideas, especially about myself. I am what I am, and it is really hard to change, even though I want to.
I am attractive but I don't wear expensive or exclusive clothing. I wear muslim jellaba and a hijab.
I have high expectations in my partner, friends and jobs and that is my great joy in life to push them to strive harder in everything in life. To be the best they can be.
I am a workaholic and perfectionist in working on my career, but that isn't appreciated by my family who wants my attention.
I prefer independent, high level or well-paid executive jobs. Instead I am a housewife, with no income, dependent on my husband's job and income.
I rather develop plans and ideas than do the actual work. That is really sad, because I would like to go to action, but I can't. Not in this life.

I am very peaceful, caring and supportive, most of the time. Especially if I don't have a family, and deadlines to clutch with each other.

I am more concerned about others than about myself, even though it is not true. I am concerned about others because they will affect me if they are not feeling good.
Love, God and spirituality are important to me.
I want to be loved and appreciated.
I have a slow metabolism with cold hand and feet. That is why it is not good for me to do any kind of polar expedition.
I am very social and I love to be around people, but not all the time.
I am conservative and family oriented with strong values. The same as my husband.
I want a healthy, loving and caring relationship.
I have had problems setting boundaries or saying no, but I improved.
I am a born caretaker, advisor, counselor or healer.
I am not very ambitious or goal-oriented, or at least I don't say it all the time. I have stopped doing that long time ago.

Trust, loyalty and honesty are very important.

Life is love and compassion.
I follow my intuition and my inner guidance.
I feel artistic, creative and spiritually advanced.
I am soft and sensitive yet aware and independent.
I am a clear and intuitive but also conservative thinker.
I need a safe and secure environment around me.
I need the freedom to live my inner beliefs and principals.
I love to help and support others in their growth.

I am a visionary, intuitive and innovative thinker.

I feel physical and powerful yet sensitive and intuitive.
I want to be famous or do something important in my life.
Often I am scattered or involved in too many projects at once.
I want to inspire and help improve the planet or humanity.
I want to appear to be magnetic and powerful with a magical aura.
I would love to end up in leadership positions or the center of attention.
I love the passion and power of music even if it is not good for me.
Success doesn't mean to live my vision and fulfill my destiny, rather that I have accomplished what God has ordained me to do.
Money represents power, influence and possibilities, but not always.
I need to be independent with the freedom to live my vision, but I can survive without it too.


My physical body is very fragile and sensitive. I tend to fall ill sometimes.

I am an imaginative, inspirational and artistic thinker.
I believe in dreams, angels, spirits, higher dimensions of life.
I like to focus and concentrate for long periods of time.
I don't live by my feelings and intuition only but also my rational mind.
I love to talk about my ideas, fantasies and dreams.
I am creative and full of wonder and imagination.
I have bad memory, I am often late, suddenly change plans.
I love soft, meditative music, candles and incense.
I prefer to work in relaxed, low stressed environments, but need deadlines to achieve anything and also feedback.
I have problems finishing projects because of lack of time, money and support.
I prefer artistic, healing and metaphysical activities.

I am very sensitive, vulnerable and easily overwhelmed.

Meditation, spirituality, awareness, healing are not priorities, but important.
My inner connection with God is most important to me.
I tend to be introverted, withdrawn and quiet if I don't have the language or the interest as the others.
I am sensitive to other peoples emotions and thoughts which take a lot of energy from me.
I take on other peoples energies and qualities very easily and that fatigues me.
I need a lot of time alone to recharge myself.
I choose to work in quiet, calm, peaceful environments.
I love to work with individuals in healing or counseling.