2012/09/12

How to find true love: Say and believe: "I am beautiful inside and out"

Regardless of our culture, our level of education or economic status, at the depth of all of us are the same desires- to love, to be loved, and to be happy.

Of course we could add other desires to this list, like money and wealth and fancy
things, but when you drill into these things, the reason for wanting them is so that we can appear more desirable, and will hopefully be loved and accepted.

If love is something so fundamentally important to us, then why is it that we have so many issues and misunderstandings in the area of finding it? I think the answer is simple, that most of us have never been educated in this fundamental area of our development.

Chances are, you didn’t grow up with parents who were relationship experts, and we certainly didn’t study relationships in our high school curriculums. For most of us, it’s been an adventure in trial and error and learning through pain and heart-break. But is there an easier way?

The problem comes when we find ourselves in a relationship and we are constantly comparing our partners with this conjured-up ‘perfect’ person. When that happens, we stop appreciating our partner for all the beautiful qualities they do possess.

The truth is this perfect person does not exist. More importantly, we may not actually need all of these qualities in a partner to be extraordinarily happy.

What we need is to identify the most important qualities that we must have in order to feel satisfied and fulfilled

But...

Love Yourself First

Because if you do not love yourself and improve yourself, then how would you find somebody that does the same. Think that you will find somebody who ressembles you in character. If you are really good, then you will find somebody similar. If you find that you are not attractive, then you will find somebody similar. So the first thing is to work with yourself. then you will find your match.

All those books that make your heart pump

Me, myself has read books sometimes that, even though I am a Muslim and I can argue about islam, it is sometimes really difficult to read them.

What the author does is to pick everything a woman or a man has difficulty with, and then write about it with such a style that you cannot but abhor everything about it. I had to revire all my knowledge and patience for not falling into the trap. The author only want people to get further from islam. 

The authors thought and purpose and with those books is to ridicule some "facts" and torn everything upside down by chosing the "right" words that makes anyone upset. He leaves everything else out.  

Anyone who read those books will hate islam - even the Muslims that really love everything about islam - subhanallah. Even though the Muslim knows the answer and the real story, he cannot but fall into the trap over and over again, with more "facts" and adjectives. 

So throw those books away as soon as possible! They only hurt you and read books that are written by good hearted Muslims instead, like Bukhari and Muslim.