2012/07/23

The Forbidden Days to Fast

There are som ahadith that explicitly prohibit fasting on certain days. These are: 



  1. The days of 'Id: All scholars agree that such a fast is prohibited. It does not matter if the fast is obligatory or voluntary. 'Umar testifies: "The Messenger of Allah has forbidden fasting on these two days. Converning the 'id of breaking the fast, it is for you to break your fast [of Ramadan]. On the 'id of sacrifice, you should eat from what you sacrifice." This is related by Ahmad, an-Nasa'i, at-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud, and Ibn Majah.
  2. The days of tashreeq (that is, the three days following the 'Id al-Adha): It is not permissible to fast during the three days following the 'Id al-Adha /after Hajj/. Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of allah, upon whom be peace, sent 'Abdullah ibn Hudhaqah to announce at Mina: "You are not to fast these days. They are the days of eating and drinking and remembering Allah." This is related by Ahmad with a good chain. The Shaf'iyyah allow fasting on the days of tashreeq if there is some reason for the fasting - that is, if it is due to an oath, for expiation, or for making up a missed day of Ramadan. Those fasts that hav eno special reason behind theym are not allowed, and there is no disagreement on this point. The Shaf'iyyah applied the same reasoning that they used in saying that prayers that are performed for a specific reason are allowed to be performed during the prohibited times of prayer. 
  3. It is prohibited to single out Friday as a day of fasting: The day of Friday is a kind of weekly 'id for Muslims and, therefore, it is prohibited to fast on that day. Most scholars say that this prohibition is one of dislike, not one of complete forbiddance. (According to Abu Hanifah and Malik, it is not disliked, but the evidence presented disagrees with their opinion on this matter). If one fasts on the day before or after it, or if it is a day that one customarily fasts on (for example, the 13th, 14th, or 15th of the month), or if it is the day of 'Arafah or 'Ashurah, then it is not disliked to fast on such a Friday. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr reported that the Messenger of Allah entered the room of Juwairiyah bint al-Harith while she was fasting on a Friday. He asked her: "Did you fast yesterday?" She asnwered, "No." He said: "Do you plan to fast tomorrow?" She answered, "No." Therefore he said: "Then break your fast." This is related by Ahmad and an-Nasa'i with a good chain. 
  4. It is also forbidden to fast every day of the year: It is forbidden to do so because there are certain days of the year on which one is not allowed to fast. The Messenger of Allah said: "There is no [reward for] fasting for the one who perpeutally fasts." This is related by Ahmad, al-Bukhari, and Muslim. 
  5. It is prohibited to fast consecutive days withous eating at all [al-wisal]: Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allah, upon whom be peace, said: "Do not perform al-wisal." He said that three times and the people said to him: "But you perform al-wisal, O Messenger of Allah!" He said: You are not like me in that matter. I spend the night in such a state that Allah feeds me and gives me to drink. Devote yourselves to the deeds which you can perform." This is related by al-Bukhari. The scholars say this prohibition implies that the act is disliked. Ahmad and Ishaq say that it is allowed to fast until the time of the pre-dawn meal as long as it is not a hardship on the one fasting. This opinion is based on what al-Bukhari recorded on the authority of Abu Sa'id al-Khudri: "The Messenger of Allah said: 'Do not make al-wisal. If one of you insists on making al-wisal, he may continue his fast [after sunset] until the time of the pre-dawn meal.'"
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12 Reasons to read the Qur'an

"Whatever task is not begun with Bismillahir Rahamnir Raheem remains incomplete and unfinished".

Why should you read the Qur'an?

Here are 12 tips.

But before that, read what you should think about when reading the Qur'an.
  • It helps to read the Qu'ran first in order to understand and reflect upon the Creation and the Creator, not to debate. 
  • Cutting and pasting from one of the websites that point out Qur'an errors is not good enough. 
  • You must read the Qur'an to know what you are talking about. 
  • Don't make the mistake that many make: To send a link or just cut and paste without even reading the words is one of the worse thing you can do. You will be very embarrassed. This will make your discussionpartner suspicious and maybe think that you are not honest, even a liar. 
  • Know your Qur'an before you preach it or worse debate it. 
  • Debating is for scholars, not for everyone (even though you want to defend yourself or islam). 
  • If you debate with somebody that does not want to reason logically about the science of Qur'an, then stop. What is the point? 
  • Use only the arabic Qur'an, never a translation (interpretation) because every person has its own interpretation and understanding of the verses even if it is Yusuf Ali, Pickthal or Shakir who have translated it. 
  • Go back to the source. 
  • Learn arabic (or arameic if you want to debate the Bible). 
"The best of you is he who learnt the Holy Quran and taught it to others." (Bukhari) 

So Why should you read the Qur'an?
1. Undoubtedly, the heart gets rusted like metal gets rusted when water goes over it. The People asked, "How can they [hearts] be cleaned." The Prophet replied, "To remember death in abundance and to recite the Holy Quran." (Mishkat) 

2. Whoever is an expert in reciting the Holy Quran is with the Kiraman Katebeen and whoever reads the Quran with pauses and it is difficult for him, that is, his tounge does not move easily and he recites with difficutly for him there are two rewards. (Bahar-e-Shariat) 

3. Learn the Quran and read it because whoever learned the Quran and read it and did Qayam with it is like a bag filled with Musk whose fragrance is spread everywhere and whoever learned the Quran and slept that is he did not do Qiyamul Layl is like a bag which is filled with Musk and its mouth has been closed. (Tirmizi, Ibn-e-Majah, Nisaee) 

4. Read the Quran when you heart feels affection and attachment and when your heart becomes bored stand up that is stop reciting the Quran. (Saheeh Bukhari and Muslim) 

5. Surah Fatiha is a cure from every illness. (Darmi, Bahiqi) 

6. Do not make your home a graveyard, the Shaitan runs from the home in which Surah Baqrah is recited. (Sahih Muslim) 

7. Whoever memorized the first ten ayahs of Surah Kahf will be saved the Dajjal. (Sahih Muslim) 

8. Whoever recites Surah Kahf on the day of Jummah, there will be a Nur brightened for him between two Jummahs. 

9. Everything has a heart and the heart of the Quran is Surah Yaseen, whoever read Yaseen, Allah will write the reward of reading the Quran ten times from him. (Tirmizi and Darmi) 

10. Whoever reads Surah Yaseen for the pleasure of Allah, his past sins will be forgiven so read this near your deceased. (Bahiqi) 

11. Surah Tabarak (Surah Mulk) saves one from Hell. 

12. Whatever task is not begun with Bismillahir Rahamnir Raheem remains incomplete and unfinished.


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26 tiny wisdoms

TINY WISDOMS



  1. SHARE YOUR BEAUTIFUL SMILE - IT IS SUNNAH
  2. WHATEVER THE PRESENT MOMENT CONTAINS, YOU HAVE CHOSEN IT - OR BETTER, YOU HAVE PRAYED TO ALLAH TO HAVE CHOSEN IT FOR YOU
  3. HAPPINESS DEPENDS UPON OURSELVES AND DEPENDS ON HOW THANKFUL YOU ARE TO YOUR CREATOR
  4. BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE STRONG, AND BELIEVE THAT ALLAH IS STRONGER THAN YOU AND HE IS THE ONE THAT GIVE YOU STRENGTH
  5. PEACE IN YOUR HEART IS ACCEPTING, TO OBEY AND FOLLOW THE GUIDANCE OF ALLAH (QUR'AN AND THE SUNNAH)
  6. IN CHAOS THERE IS NO ORDER. MAN CREATES CHAOS WHILE ALLAH CREATES ONLY ORDER. 
  7. THE GOOD LIFE IS A STATE OF BEING. THE GOOD LIFE IS A DESTINATION, NOT A DIRECTION.
  8. WHEN RELATIONSHIPS ARE MESSY, IT IS BECAUSE IT IS NOT BASED ON THE TRUE LOVE AND SUBMISSION TO ALLAH
  9. SET YOUR MIND FREE, BUT KNOW WHO IS YOUR CREATOR
  10. RENEW YOURSELF. RELEASE THE STUFF YOU ARE HOLDING ON TO. TODAY IS A NEW DAY. IS IT BETTER THAN YESTERDAY?
  11. WHEN YOU JUDGE ME, AS I KNOW YOU WILL, KEEP IN MIND HOW FAR I'VE COME
  12. FOLLOW YOUR GUIDANCE (QUR'AN) AND DON'T BE AFRAID. DOORS WILL BE OPEN WHERE YOU DIDN'T KNOW THEY WERE GOING TO BE
  13. CHOOSE TO ENJOY THE DESTINY DESTINED BY YOUR CREATOR
  14. THIS MOMENT IS A CHANCE TO BE SUBMITTED TO YOUR CREATOR, TO ACCEPT THE TRUTH IS THE ONLY WAY TO BE TRULY FREE
  15. I WISE MAN MAKES HIS OWN DECISIONS, AN IGNORANT MAN FOLLOWS PUBLIC OPINION
  16. IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO BE BUSY - SO ARE THE ANTS. THE QUESTION IS: WHAT ARE WE BUSY ABOUT?
  17. THE MOST POWERFUL WORDS FOR HEALING IS THE WORDS "THANK YOU" AND "ALHAMDOLILLAH"
  18. NURTURE YOUR MIND WITH GREAT THOUGHTS, TO BELIEVE IN ALLAH AND MIRACLES MAKES HEROES
  19. WHEN YOU BELIEVE SOMETHING CAN BE DONE, REALLY BELIEVE, YOUR MIND WILL FIND WAYS TO DO IT
  20. BE GENTLE FIRST WITH YOURSELF IF YOU WANT TO BE GENTLE WITH OTHERS
  21. WHAT YOU DO TODAY IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE YOU DON'T EXCHANGE THIS DAY WITH ANOTHER ONE
  22. STRESS IS CAUSED BY DOING THE WRONG THINGS
  23. THE ONLY WAY TO RECEIVE LOVE IS TO OPEN YOUR HEART TO SUBMISSION TO YOUR CREATOR, THEN HE WILL FILL YOUR HEART WITH IT
  24. LOVE HEALS, BUT WHAT IS LOVE AND WHERE DOES IT COME FROM? GOD!
  25. TO BE GOOD ENOUGH IS NOT THE SAME AS BEING PERFECT AND ONLY ALLAH IS PERFECT
  26. WHO DOES NOT THANK FOR THE LITTLE WILL NOT THANK FOR THE MUCH
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17 Tiny wisdoms

Tiny wisdoms

  1. THINK MORE, FEEL MORE
  2. REMEMBER THE GOOD THINGS AND THANK ALLAH FOR THOSE THINGS AND ALSO FOR EVERYTHING YOU CAN'T REMEMBER TOO
  3. CARE OF WHAT ALLAH THINKS OF YOU - AND ONLY ALLAH
  4. LOVE YOUR CREATOR, THE ONE WHO YOU WILL MEET AGAIN
  5. HELP PEOPLE HELP THEMSELVES
  6. KNOW THAT THE ONLY ONE WHO IS STRONG IS ALLAH, AND IT IS HE WHO CAN GIVE YOU STRENGTH
  7. START FIGHTING WITH YOUR OWN SELF AND CHARACTER AND LIVE LIFE AS SIMPLE AS YOU CAN
  8. YOUR INTENTION SPEAK LOUDER THAN YOUR ACTIONS AND WORDS
  9. TREAT THE PEOPLE HOW ALLAH WANTS YOU TO TREAT THEM AND HOW MUHAMMAD PEACE BE UPON HIM TREATED PEOPLE
  10. THE ONLY ONE YOU CAN TRUST IS ALLAH
  11. WHAT YOU PAY ATTENTION TO IS WHAT YOUR HEART IS FULL OF
  12. YOU ARE TRULY RICH WHEN YOU HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP TO ALLAH
  13. TRUE AND GOOD RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN FRIENDS AND FAMILY IS BASED ON THE TWO FRIENDS RELATIONSHIP TO ALLAH
  14. STOP TRYING TO CHANGE OTHERS, THEY WILL CHANGE WHEN YOU CHANGE WITHIN
  15. WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR? TOMORROW IF COULD BE TO LATE
  16. THE JOURNEY IS NOT THE REWARD. THE JOURNEY IS A TEST AND THEN YOU GET THE REWARD.
  17. WHATEVER YOU FIGHT FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH YOU WILL CONQUER, AND WHATEVER YOU RESIST WILL GIVE YOU PATIENCE
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How to be free and happy as a Muslim woman

How can I be free and happy as a Muslim woman?


Everyone that looks at islam from the the outside sees only the Muslim woman in Media. The one who is sad, berupted from her child in an attack from the terrorist-state of Israel. The one in Iraq who is covered up top to toe, looking sad, because everybody in her family has been killed or wounded. That is NOT a free and happy Muslim woman, because the free and happy Muslim women are NEVER in media, except for a few convertites sometimes. So how can you free and happy as a Muslim woman?


1. Notice your tendencies.

You and I, we both have our unique tendencies that distract us from the present moment. I’m a worrier, so I tend to think about the future and try to solve problems before they even happen.
What are your tendencies? What kind of thoughts tend to rob you of the now?
These questions will help you become more mindful about what is going on in your head, which in turn leads to mindfulness.
A few examples of tendencies that are very common are:
  • anxiety
  • worry
  • fear
  • pleasure seeking
A great tip is to write down your tendencies and how they tease you out of the now. Grab a piece of pen and paper, and just do it.

2. Practice non-acceptance.

Once you start becoming mindful of your tendencies, it’s crucial that you JUDGE yourself. Practice non-acceptance and embrace the faith you have.
The tendencies you have are there for a reason. They are signposts pointing to the areas of your life that need attention.
If you’re a chronic worrier, you need to start noticing whenever you begin drifting to the future. Become mindful, observe your thoughts, and breathe.
We believe our thoughts to be the authority on life, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our thoughts are not just thoughts. Our thoughts are either from our-selves or from Shaytan. So beware of who is whispering in your ear. Read the Qur'an, say Aoudo billahi minna shaytan irrajim Allah - preserve me from Shaytan. 

3. Focus on your breath and dhikr.

Your breath is a powerful and simple way to anchor yourself in the present moment. Whenever you are having a hard time staying in the now, take deep breaths, and focus on your breathing.
You could even count your breaths or do dhikr and say subhanallah over and over again. Something I like to do is count to four on the inhale and four on the exhale or more often subhanallah, alhamdolillah, la illaha illa Allah, Allaho Akbar, la hawla wa la quatta illah billah.
It focuses the logical part of my brain on counting or remembering (dhikr) and allows me to focus on my breath. After a while I can release the crutch of counting or dhikr and just be.

4. Question your thoughts.

Your thoughts aren’t always right. In fact, they are rarely right, especially if they make you feel bad.
Question your thoughts constantly. When you start to feel negative emotions, use it as a reminder to examine what thoughts are causing the commotion.
Most people walk around all day letting negative thoughts cause negative feelings. We both know that nothing good can come out of this. But if you take your negative thoughts and repent for the things you have done that were against the sunnah of the prophet or the Qur'an, you will start feeling much more free and happy. If you cry, that is a good sign that you are on the right path. 
It takes discipline to be mindful, but the rewards are peace and happiness. Even researchers are discovering the power of emotions. Negative emotions not only have the power to make you feel bad, but can affect your physical health as well.
Whenever a negative thought arises, take a step back, and look at if the thought is true. Perhaps it is your nafs, your soul that is trying to impose something on you that you do not want to do, because of your faith. Perhaps it is a djinn, a shayateen. You have to remember Allah those times and say alhamdolillah and thank him for everything you have understood and everything Allah has done for you. Allah knows what is best for you. Perhaps he is protecting you from something that you do not know yet. Be patient. 

5. Use reminders.

Another great way to stay anchored in the now is to use reminders. The best reminders are those of dhikr and remembrance of the Qur'an and the hadith. If you know some part of the Qur'an by heart, repeat those verse for yourself.
Each time you say alhamdolillah or read Qur'an or do other dhikr, you are reminded of the present moment. Are you in the now, or are you somewhere else? Because it is only in the present you can change your past and your future. 
There are no limits to what you can use as a reminder. If you want to take this even further, you can add a new reminder each week.
Start using internal reminders such as dhikr and so on. If you keep doing this, you will be astonished at the results. You can use external reminders as well, as the people around you. Choose people you admire and want to look like or be like. They will remind you of who you could be and who you should be and who you are becoming. -lk 

6. Be determined.

Increasing the time you spend in the present moment can be a lot of work. If you’re serious about becoming more mindful, you have to be determined.
There will be times when you feel like you want to throw in the towel. You will face challenges, obstacles, and problems.
But if you’re determined, you will get through them. They are nothing but teachers on your path.
When you make becoming more mindful one of your main goals, you simply cannot fail.

7. Don't follow your passion.

I have noticed that the more I follow my passion and my hearts deepest desire, the more I am able to stay in the now but the twist is that if you follow your passion, then you will be misguided as well. Shaytan wants you to follow your passion, and that is his 24/7 work all day long. He wants you to deviate from the right path that God has put forward you. This is one obstacle that he lays out for you. Allah wants you to pass those hinders and continue the road, by only looking at the target - paradise. If you look at things in your way or follow your passion, then you will be misguided. That is more dangerous for you and your soul than following your passion right now. You will feel good for a moment, but for the long-lasting feeling you have to go away from your passions and work for your future goal. 
I enjoy every second of every minute when I’m working on something I love. My heart buzzes with joy and I feel amazing.
Writing is one of my passions. I love helping people improve their life. It makes me come alive, and it keeps me in the present moment. But, it have to be something that is in the path of Allah. Something that helps me not only in this life, but also my soul in the next life. If I do something that is considered haram like guitare-playing, then I will lose everything in the next life. So be careful with what you engage in. 
Inspiration flows effortlessly, and it’s almost like I am channeling someone else as I am writing. Find your passion and go after it, but let it be in lign with Allahs goal for you.
Becoming more mindful is done step-by-step. You do not have to go all-in. You only have to increase the amount of time you spend in the present moment each and every day.
If you do that, it’s impossible for you not to become a mindfulness master.

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I live like a Nun - but with a husband in two countries

To be a Muslim is like being a Nun and a Monk and at night, they meet. What do I mean by that. I mean that except for the faith that I abhor is that I live like a Nun. I think about the time for prayer every morning and five times a day. For a Nun the prayer times are important. I also put on clothes that cover me up, top to toe.   I also eat healthy, not excessive and I prefer ecologic food rather that genetically modified food. I do not drink wine and eat porc but I think about where the food comes from. 


If I had a garden I would have tried to grow crops my self. 


When I go to the supermarket, I read the lables on the plastics to know the origin, what the food contains, if it is halal, if it is genetically modified, if it is with toxic content, if it is from Israel and so on. This is somewhat tiresome for many, but it is routine for me. As a Nun I also think and reflect upon the Creator every day. I thank him for everything I have. I also help the people around me, but I have to have time for myself and for my prayer and relation to God. 

The difficult part for Muslims is that they are forbidden to live as a Monk and Nun. 


They have to live mixed up in a society with others. With their families. The consequence of this in Sweden today is that they are exposed to many things that are not good for them, like advertising, naked people, beaches full of naked people. Even for me, as a Woman, it is haram for me to watch naked women. So when you go to the swimmingpool or watch teve and the women are not covered up, I sin. 


It is bad for a nun and a monk to watch naked people. 


So is it for the Muslim people. So why do the best Muslim people always stay at home? It is no longer safe to be at home either. If a Muslim stays at home, there are plenty of stuff that are not good either. Perhaps the radio with music on EVERY channel, or movies with bad content, even when you are trying to avoid them. Perhaps on Internet with the latest Lady Gaga-movie or and advertisement for men and women to CHEAT. How bad has the society gone when the people are encouraged to CHEAT? I wonder. You do not listen to music, but you sing for yourself. My mother and everyone else ALWAYS listen to music, they do not STAND the fact NOT to listen. How sad! 

I enjoy the silence very much. 


I do not watch the same shows either. I watch documentaries as "Who do you think you are" or "Go back home, refugees, Australia". I enjoy reading and writing too. I enjoy being at home, without any stress. But when somebody comes to visit me, I get all stressed out because they do not live the same as I do. They enjoy alcohol. They don't care to bother what they eat or drink. They watch anything they like on television. They talk about other people in a negative way, gossiping about others, and that is HARAM. I never want to be inpolite, leaving the conversation but I always stay, afraid of being ridiculed for leaving the conversation. Sometimes I try, I it is always difficult to explain something they can't understand. Gossiping is HARAM, even if it is true. Weather-talk is fine. Politics is fine. Economics are fine. 


But all those things are TABU in Sweden. 


That is why the French thinks the Swedish people are sooo boring. Haha. It is true. They do not want to go to Sweden, because of the people. 

I adore Sweden, its countryside and the environment. 


I love the mentality of being precise, to respect time and to strive for something better.


They think about the poor people too and tries to help them, but not enough (if you ask me). THEY think they know everything in Sweden that is important to know. They really believe that they are the best creatures on earth. They can't imagine why somebody does not want to be Swedish. I understand them, but Sweden is far away of being perfect. No country is. There are many confused people, superficial, wealthy, egotistical, vulgaire, depressed, kids- and dogs-loving and intellectual Swedes living in Sweden but the fact is, they are NOT the best creatures on earth. It is not the financial status of the people that counts when you judge who are the best peope. 


For Allah has said that the best people on the earth are the useful people: 

A man once asked the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.): 

"What people does Allah love most ?". He said, "They are the most useful ones to people." 


Sometimes somebody asks me if I prefer to live in Sweden or in Tunisia. I say both. Because in Sweden it is cold. Not only in weather, but also in character of the people. They leave you alone. They do not visit you. If you stay in Sweden for a long time with this you will get depressed. 


So that is why I like to mix it up with Tunisia where it is hot half of the year. The people are also hot and friendly and warm. 


They visit each other. If you have cold they call you or visit you and they are so generous with what they have all the time. But if you stay there for ever you will feel that it is too much, so you need Sweden again and so on. 

The positive side with Tunisia is that you hear Adhan and that it is okay to be a Muslim, even though most of the Tunisian people are unconscious about islam and they do not do what a Muslim is supposed to do, as caring for the nature and environment or respect time and deadlines. They say tomorrow but mean next week or after that. they do not say 16.40, they say after asr-time which is around 3-6 hours. That causes stress for some people  sometimes. But I feel that most of the stress I feel in Sweden is too much. 


Even though it is effective to live in Sweden I get very stressed out very quickly and then I come back to Tunisia to rest for a while and socialize. 


Then I go back to Sweden to rest and get back to the cave and the cold, but in Sweden I do not hear adhan or have somebody to remind me of the prayer so I long for going back to Tunisia.

Then we have the work and the studies or staying at home. In Tunisia I really want to do something like working or studying, but you can't. It is not as in Sweden. It is really difficult to study, expensive and takes a lot of time. 


In Sweden you can study AND work at the same time. 
That is not possible in Tunisia. The work is also hard in Tunisia. You have to work for 8-10 hours, six days per week with only about 200 $ or close to it. In Sweden you work for 8 hours a day, five days per week with 2000 $ approximately. That is why so many people want to come to Europe. Because of the financial status they have in Tunisia. 
Everything is expensive as in Sweden, and the money is for food, medicines and some cheap clothes, imported from Sweden. In Tunisia you do not do ANYTHING except eating all the time. That is why so many are so fat in Tunisia. They can't afford any pleasure except the family visiting them and the food, that is really delicious. They also pray many times, but the activity is not enough. 

In Sweden it is the contrary. 


You do not have the family so you try to enjoy everything else, like cinema, dancing, working out, movies, candy, snacks, friends, your children and their activities if you have any and so on. They do not have the time to stay still. They listen to music ALL day long. They can't live without music. They have to have boyfriends and girlfriends. Marriage is not interesting for the boys as they have the girls for free. They play music. They watch music in the movies. They sing with their children. They dance and sing in the kindergarden. Music is everywhere. And for a Muslim music is haram.


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