2015/06/21

How to find your true desires and wants (in depth)



I read an article of Steve Pavlina, you can read about it here , and he gave me an insightful view of where I was standing, who I were and who I wanted to be.

I made three columns. One for values that I hate, but I strive for. One for things that I do, that is okay. One for values that I desire to integrate in myself.

This is what I came up with.

(Please read Steve Pavlinas blog before you continue to read)

WANTS AND DESIRES: THIS IS WHAT I REALLY TRULY DESIRE, BUT DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT RIGHT NOW.

I'm afraid of Thranscendance, but I am wanting it so badly. 

I want to be a reliable and a brilliant person who makes people feel relief. I want to be present and professional.

I desire warmheartedness and warmth. I want wit and grace.

My highest desires are to be acknowledged for something that is accessible with something that will make people feel relief. I want them to feel pleasure.

I need structure and support in my life. I love to have sophisitication and at the same time be both sound and to have useful people around med. I love variety and want to live with variety.

My basics need are organisation and rest. I want to feel ease and liberty. I need loyalty and mystery.

I want to be honored and feel honor for others.
I want to be graceful and elegant.
I want enthusistic people like me and I want to have credibility, which is a big desire. I want the freedom, to invent and to feel euphoria and I desire to be fearless.

THIS IS NOT ME, but I THINK THIS SHOULD BE ME:

I am instead trying hard to be something else, that I am actually hating.
I am trying to show courtesy, decisiveness and discipline, because this is what others want me to be. I try to be content and in control, which I am not. I am trying to dominate and be effective and be an expert, but I hate it, no one shows appreciation.
I am flexible and committed to my responsibilities, which I hate.

I try to be friendly and helpful, but I hate it. I try to humiliate myself and show hospitality which I hate. I hate that I have to find motivation everyday to do these things I hate. I try to obey, but hate it. I try to be a good partner, but hate it. I try to be patient and peaceful, but hate it.

I hate being famous and reputated. I hate pleasure and trying to belong. I hate to care and to be charmful. I hate to try to be cheerful and perfect. I hate Punctuality and richness. I hate being sensible and sexy. I hate simplicity and spontaneity. I hate stillness and strenght (stiff). I hate surprises and teaching people. I hate understanding people and wealth. I hate winning and victory. I hate tranquility.

THIS IS WHO I AM TODAY AND WHAT I STRIVE FOR EVERYDAY AS WELL:

Advancement, affluence, approvement, but they are leading nowhere. I try to be assertive and attractive and beauty. I am bold and certain and strive for challenge. I give charity and show chasisty. I am clean and clever. I feel comfort and tidiness. I strive for purify and realism and these things are normal and easy and quite boring for me.

I and thankful and show teamwork. I am sincere and spiritual. I relax and reflect. Which is quite uninteresting and boring - it is normal and boring.
I am compassionate and competent. I am concentrated and strive for consercation.
I am daring and dreaming. I give and grow. I am guided and show other guidance.
I strive for health and influency. I have it all.
I have marriage and family and responsibility.
I express myself and explore life.
I have faith and show fidelity.
I am focused and fun. I have ethics and encourage other people.
I have a good economy and dignity.

I show insightfulness and inspiration.
I show integrity and intellect.
I show intuition and justice.
I have knowledge and am always learning.
I am making a difference I believe.
I show leadership but don't want it when I don't have loyalty and love.
I am open-minded and perceptive. I am playful. I am instense (people hate it).
I show intimacy and introspection. I am alive and logic. I don't conform (which my husband hates).

So, this is me.

Please give me your advice, how to proceed...



2015/06/13

I demand being seen, heard, respected and ultimately understood and loved



For many years I have believed that if I just did what everybody else wanted me to do, I would be loved more. So I did.

I played the piano. So that my mum would love me.
I kept quiet som that my family wouldn't argue with me.
I worked so that the society would love me.
I accepted to shut my self up for many years, so that my husband would be calm.
I didn't respect my boundaries.

I didn't respect it.

I failed.

And I get down.
And then I got up.

I started to show who I was. How I thought. I started to gain knowledge, so that people would respect me. So that they would listen to me.

But people didn't change. They listened, but they didn't change.

But then, something happened.

I found the key to health. I found it. It was all there all the time.

I wrote about it.
I learned more.

And people started to see that my health improved. So they tried what I had tried, and succeeded.

And then I felt better and I knew I was on the right path.

If it was correct once, then perhaps I would be correct a second one.
So I started to build up som self-trust.

Which helped me to find ways to improve my mental and emotional health.

And then I finally found Teal Swan, who is the last one of many, many, many people and the end of a long-time research of 30 years, and she is now one of my favourite mentors in my life.

I now focus on self-love, self-respect, self-honor, self-soothing, relief,

And I am on the right path. inchallah.

Thir Ramadan will be the best ever, inchallah.

The future is bright. The hope and love is there. I was so afraid before. But I ain't no more.

Thank you Allah, Thank you Ahad, One, As-Samad, the Inseparable.

Alhamdolillah.

2015/03/20

Crying is good for your health and helps your mind to be clear and your heart to be pure


Crying (Thawbah) is good for your health and for purifying your body and mind (which will purify your belief i e the way you think, i.e your religion and thus the way you act)

In islam, we are crying a lot. Not only 7 times a year, as a German scientologist has told us (German Society of Ophthalmology) Men cry on average between 6-17 times per year while women cry between 30-64 times a year. In islam it is recommended to cry a lot, every night if possible while doing tawbah, repentance for the bad things you did and could remember and not remember.

Women tend to cry for about six minute and men for between two and four minutes, but this is not a reserach done of Muslim men of course. Until adolescence, no difference between the sexes was found.

Biological response

Crying studies in laboratories have shown several physical effects of crying, such as increased heart rate, sweating, and slowed breathing.

Increased heart rate is good, because it helps the body to flush the blood around and up to the head and brain, thus making us thinking more clearly.

Sweating and moving that lymph is a great purification reaction. Sweating is the main purification action to get rid of toxins and thus purifyting our bodies, which islam recommed us to do. Crying is good.

Slowed breathing is great as it will decrease the stress, which is the main factor for health problems. Stress make your body alert and in a state of fight-and-flight-mood, so to slow down to breathing is essential for your health. It will help you if you have stomach issues like IBS, kidney problems etc. So if you cry a lot, it is good for you. Don't be afraid to go from happy, angry and stressed out to crying because it will help you feel happy again, inchallah.

Crying is helpful and beneficial.

Allah has however told us not to be sad, i.e. be in a state of sadness, without crying, so this is important to remembder. Sadness and depression is not of islam, but crying is.

Stress

When you think about all things you have to do, or implications that are going to happen, eventually, or perhaps not at all, your body will in both cases start to pump out adrenalin, as if it already is happening right now.

A response to stress is that the sympathetic nervous system triggers several processes to allow us to fight or flee. Even if we are sitting at a spa, thinking about all things you have to do later, you will be in a state of stress. This includes shutting down unnecessary body functions, such as digestion, and increasing blood flow and oxygen to necessary muscles.

Is this good?

When you feel a lump in the throat, known as a globus sensation, is because the body is experiencing two things at the same time. Is feels stress, but at the same time it also opening the throat in order to increase air flow. This is done by expanding the glottis, which allows more air to pass through.

As you are undergoing this sympathetic response, eventually the parasympathetic nervous systym attempts to undo the response by decreasing high stress activites and increasing recuperative processes, which includes running digestion.

This involves swallowing, a process which requires closing the fully expanded glottis to prevent food from entering the larynx. The glotting, however, attempts to remain open as you cries. This fight to close the glottis creates a sensation that feels like a lump in your throat.

Not eating is good, fasting is good

If you don't eat, and then you cry your body will increase your blood flow, which will have a great effect on your mind, muscles and body. It will move your lymph and get rid of the toxins in your body. It will increase your air flow and it will calm your whole body down, thus helping your stomach to degenerate.

Sunnah to be thin and sunnah to say as-salam aleikum,

It is sunnah to be thin. And when you think calm thoughts, your body will be calm. When you think that you are safe, your body will start to degenerate, and stress will go away and you start to restore everything you have damaged in your body.

I use to say As-salam (one of the names of Allah), while thinking that my cells are in this state. It calms me down. I sign that my body is calm is that I breath deeper. When I say As-salam aleikum, both you and me will be in a state of calm and this is good.

Your mind is so much important, much more than you think. And allah has told us exactly what you can do to be in the best of states.

Thawbah (repentance)

When you cry  of tawbah which is an outcome of the thoughts you have been thinking and thus the act that you have been made.

Our prophet, who said the truth to us and wanted us to experience the best way of living, cried due to the fondness and love for a deceased person, or for fear of, on behalf of the ummah, or because of the fear or longing for Allah Ta'aala. Only these types of crying are good, really good, they are even praiseworthy.

One type of crying is called a lie, i.e. the crying of a person that thinks in a certain way that is far away of the truth, and didn't understand that he is far away from the truth, so he keeps doing the same thing, believing and thinking that what he does is his right and it is good for him or for other people (which is also called hypocrisy).

David, the prophet David, over him peace, also cried. His cry was due to sorrow. Ibrahim, the prophet Ibrahim, who also told the truth, over him peace, was due to a desire, and the crying of Muhammad, the prophet Muhammad, the truth-teller, was because of love.

When he cried at night, it was due to love. Otherwise he cried due to different reasons as has been mentioned.

Read more about the hadiths where this has been mentioned, here.

(306) Hadith Number 2.

'Abdullah bin Mas'ud Radiyallahu 'Anhu says: ''Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam once asked me to recite the Qur-aan to him. (The hearing of the recital of the Qur-aan is regarded as a sunnah, as a result of this deed of Sayyidina Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam) 

I said: ''O Messenger of Allah, should I recite it to you when it has been revealed to you?' 

Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam said: 'I love to hear it from another person'' 

Thereupon I began reciting Surah Nisaa. When I reached the aayah ''But how (will it be with them) when We bring of every people a witness, and We bring thee (O Muhammed) a witness against these?'' (Surah Nisaa,41) I saw tears flowing from both eyes of Rasulullah Sallallahu 'Alayhi Wasallam"

So, if something makes you cry, cry. If it is out of fear, cry, love, cry, thawbah, cry. This will help you purify yourself, and give you health, strength and a clear mind back. Inchallah. 

The Muslim Ummah needs to be purified, and war is one way. Don't be afraid of war. Don't be afraid of loss. We will all be lost to somebody and when it is going to happen, remember that Allah has made our graveyard a peace of rest for everyone that has cried a lot at night, while praying. So cry, cry, cry. The more you cry, the better. 


2015/03/11

The key to health is omitting stuff - and fasting!



Hello, it has been a while since I wrote. I have been searching for health and found it.

The key to health is...

Tada..

Fasting! (And omitting all those things that don't serve you)

OMG!

It has been there all the time, in front of me.

It has been there since I became Muslim and the Muslims had the answer all the time.


2014/11/05

RICHARD DAWKINS (atheist) takes on ISLAM on Al Jazeera TV

I really, really want somebody to talk to this arrogant man, Richard Dawkins, who with his ignorant attitude makes fun of Muslim girls, even though they are better informed than he is.

Al-Jazeera is the man for the job.

Here is the video:


"What would you do if God descends upon you?"
"Oh, I have thought about it too....!"

2014/10/13

Ebola - Nature, accident or genocide?

What do you think about this?

The documented evidence revealed in Dr. Horowitz's new book, Emerging Viruses: AIDS and Ebola - Nature, Accident or Genocide? (Tetrahedron Publishing Group, 1996), shows that NCI researchers, during the 1960's, mixed viral genes from different animals to produce leukemia, sarcoma, general wasting, and death. This provided the "cancer models" used to study human cancer and begin human vaccine trials. The book, described as the first in-depth exploration into the origins of AIDS and Ebola, and its controversial conclusions, have offended many top AIDS researchers, and been hailed by numerous others who have long questioned the green monkey theory, or feared disease outbreaks from viral vaccine experiments.

Read More? Got to Lightparty


2013/12/25

The history of Tunisian Muslims - they lived in the most high-tech city of the world.

Tunisia was t h e New York, a metropolis, for more than 600 years with ingeneering, architecture, sky-scrapers, running water in the houses, killer Aston Martin boats. Everybody wanted to live in this modern and high-tech land!


2013/11/28

Sami Yusuf - Forgotten Promises

Have you ever wondered why people want to be and stay Muslims? This is one reason - the big community - the ummah.

Listen to this and enjoy!


Seychelles - the richest country in Africa


1. Seychelles - The Muslim population is reported to be only 1,1 %, about 900 people.
2. Equatorial Guinea - Muslims make from 1% to 25 % of the population depending whether they are practising the religion or not.
3. Gabon - Approximately 12% of the population of Gabon practices Islam, of which 80-90% are foreigners.
4. Botswana - Islam is the third largest religion in Botswana, following Christianity.
5. South Africa - Islam in South Africa has grown. The local Muslim population are known to be peaceful, tolerant and moderate.
6. Libya - Most Libyans are Muslims.
7. Tunisia - Approximately 98% are officially estimated to be Muslims, but in reality it is more than half the population.
8. Namibia - Islam is the third largest religion in Namibia after Christianity.
9. Algeria - Islam is the religion of almost all Algerians.
10. Egypt - Muslims represent 94% of the population. 

4 celebrity couples you forgot ever existed

Life in Medina was pretty romantic. In light of the prophet Muhammad and Khadija's love story, we'd like to remind you of few other couples you forgot happened.


Hey, did you know that Khadija were married to a 15 year younger, honest, kind and beautiful man, and that by that time she (nor he) knew he pbuh was going to be a prophet?



Fatima and Ali got married and had two boys. Fatma was very inspiring, because she stood up for the right to speak, she was a Politician and she worked for the human rights. Ali was also very successful.



Prince Rahim Agakhan's wedding on the 31th of Augusti 2013 with American Super-Model Kendra Spears, now Princess Salwa Agakhan, in Switzerland.

And at last but not least we have...


Janet Jackson, who secretly got married to billionaire Wissam al Mana, also converted to Islam and officially retired from Music.